Told you I’d be back with a post about my hair.  I’m going to keep this post very sweet and short. I haven’t lost any hair.  My hair is growing. A strict regimen is needed. The wigs may get a revival.

So, I’ve been growing my hair out since my cut last summer.


I can tell you it has grown since this picture. That’s solely due to my three girlfriends and flat twist.  My comfort level with my natural texture has grown immensely.  Straightening my hair almost brings me no joy beyond the initial day.  I worry about heat damage and hair reversion, lol. I think you’re familiar with all my protective styles.  I embraced the shorter wigs as well.  My next will be a long straight model.

Over the summer, I decided to allow a stylist to wash and condition my hair once a month.  This would allow me to keep up with trims and get a little relief from the dreaded wash day.  I noticed my hair wasn’t shedding as much as normal. But, I was still messing up in an area or two.  I wasn’t keeping up with my wash days. Allowing weeks go by without washing my hair or deep conditioning. Recent stress had snatched two plugs of hair from my scalp and I wasn’t happy about it.  Back to the peppermint oil, I ran and added lavender, eucalyptus, rosemary essential oils and black seed. More importantly, I still had my edges!

The hair was recovering and I noticed a few more grays around the perimeter.  Then I decided to get my hair straightened for a wedding and my anxiety was high.  My stylists I absolutely trust with my hair were booked, one was preparing for a big show and the other was styling a wedding. (You better have multiple stylists you trust and I’m not about to argue.) DAMN DAMN DAMN! So, I remembered a stylist that was close to me and specialized in natural hair care, Meah.  I set up an appointment and I put my tresses in her hands.  Praying all would be fine when I washed my hair the following week.img_4815-1

She gave me a protein treatment, which I hadn’t had in ages, and proceeded to blow dry my hair. I felt safe when she pulled out the heat protectant and the Wild Growth hair oil. Then she hit me with the one line women hate to hear from any stylist – “you need a trim.” Wtf! Everybody tells me that- fuck it do it.  I hate raggedy ends more than single-strand knots.  After she finished, she showed me the remains on the floor.  It wasn’t much and it appeared she just dusted the ends. I dared not show it on the outside but I was overjoyed.

Finally, I got caught in a light mist at the King HS homecoming game and the hair started to curl. 🙂  Then I made the choice to wash and DC like I had always done in the beginning of this journey and within minutes ALL of my curls and coils were accounted for.  Meah, definitely had my stamp of approval and considering I only wanted my hair washed/ blow dried once a month as a treat she certainly could be added to the rotation. I don’t remember how long it took me to wash my hair, condition and style it but it felt good. For the 4th time during this journey has a professional placed a pair of sheers to my mane and not chopped most of my hair off.  I twisted my hair in those flat-twists and made a vow to never miss wash day for the remainder of this journey.

#Mission2020 has begun.  “If the plan doesn’t work, change the plan to fit the goal.” My goal certainly has changed and I’m going to focus on doing my part to ensure I have the healthiest head of hair. Now when you see me in a few years with long Pippie Longstocking twists, remember I never gave up.  🙂

Have you had to re-evaluate your hair care regimen? What are your go-to methods for retaining length?




How can I start? I’m enjoying the natural hair journey I’m on. It does become a bit tiring, especially on wash days. However, I’m a woman of my word. I planned to continue until my son graduates high school. This year started off with great discipline and hair care practices. I’ll tell you why I don’t believe I’ve taken the best care of my hair this year.

In the beginning of 2014, I was mixing treatments, rinsing in cold water, deep conditioning weekly and wearing my wig. My excitement about my first full year being natural using limited heat was my motivation. I went in for a trim in June after being told at my spring straightening that my ends were a little damaged. Educating myself on a few protective styles, ditching my wig left the summer and my ends open to a variance of issues.


I began wearing flat twist halos and puffs on the regular. Ping ponging between another sew-in, braids and the financial obligations of life which included moving created several hurdles in my plan for 5 months undercover, so to speak. Before I knew it – September was here. No time for extra cash bring spent now. The kid was scheduled to go back to school (and you know what that means – more money bring spent). So, I couldn’t pay for an expensive hairdo. The summer was lost and I still couldn’t afford it. Oh yeah, I decided to throw my old faithful wig “Babygirl” away for esthetic reasons. Then I decided to have my hair curled during the fall. By this time, I’m washing my hair every 2 weeks and deep conditioning when I had the time. There is notable shedding but I am not concerned by this much. People are telling me my puff is getting larger and softer. Then I have an idea to keep my hair in a sew-in for the remainder of the year.


By Thanksgiving Day, I’ve aborted the whole idea for the year. Wash days have become more infrequent. The deep conditioning is a a halt. I’ll have to wait and see what’s the final outcome at my NYE appointment for heat, protein and curls.

I’m definitely going to do better next year and not giving up on my curls, kinks and coils!

The tales of my hair are never ending. They include drastic change, growth, setbacks and milestones. If you really want to know, they mimic my life. Over the past year I have done everything to completely transition into a full on natural. No harsh chemicals, treatments or pressing comb. The biggest challenge for me gas been finding styles to compliment my hair and the agenda I set for it.


As of April 2, 2013, I removed all damaged hair from my head and began me 4 year journey to healthier hair. It has been a real struggle to keep the heat away from my hair. It takes literally one pull from a pressing comb to have my hair flowing like the river Jordan. In all my conscious effort to keep my hands out of my hair I had to bind my hair up. This consisted of the sew-in weave as a protective style. I was upset after I removed the first install because I discovered that my hair had been ripped from the scalp from too tight braids. I concentrated my energy on reviving that spot through research and experimentation. For 5 months I kept my hands away from my natural hair and you’d be surprised to see what happened. The spot had totally filled in and I was on my way to maybe the healthiest head of hair I’ve had in my life.


Not only did it grow, it shocked me! I had managed to take care of my hair under the mass of Brazilian virgin hair that was attached to my head strategically. I blew it dry just to see how big my afro had become since April. As I recall my hair has never had an issue with growing now I wasn’t interfering in it’s process. Being a person that sets goals for myself, I wanted to see just how far my process would take me through the end of the year. So instead of getting the weave re-installed, I ventured right back to my trusty wig. Only twisting my hair underneath for protection.


All was well until I began to feel that something was missing from my hair care regimen. Proper care! Yes I was keeping the manipulation down, oiling my scalp, washing with the proper products but it still felt like I should be doing more. Then it came to me. (Ding dong) I needed to deep condition my hair more often. More like weekly. After visiting the M2 salon in Ferndale and receiving a deep treatment on my hair and loving my experience. I vowed for the remainder of my journey I would DC – deep condition every week. In the meantime I created a new problem area that requires my TLC. After taking the twists out that were installed after my trip to the salon, I placed my hair in a high puff. I’ll be honest it hurt like the dickens but I kept it in anyway. The price I paid was created another bald spot due to tension. So far it has shown improvement but I really didn’t need this kind of setback. However, nursing the 1st spot gave me knowledge on what I need to do for this interior space that’s crying out for my attention. (I have pictures but I want to save them for another post about the methods I used to bring it back) As you recall, my mane was straight for NYE.


Scared for my life after a few days, I ran to the shower to throw some water on my head to make sure it reverted back to the curls. I didn’t grab no shoes or nothing Lord Jesus! Within seconds I was reunited with the head of hair I’d grown to love. So far I’ve kept my word and delegated a specific day to wash my hair. Currently, I’m experimenting with an assortment of products. This creates an air of excitement for me whereas I can get bored rather fast with the process. The constant in my hair care program is water and Sleeping Beauty hair garments. I’m trusting after this next move some of the subconscious stresses that I’m experiencing will be alleviated and we can obtain more consisted growth. Moreover, I’m going to be patient. i have a goal set but right now i want to focus on remaining strong in this lifestyle change. As I prepare to celebrate my 1st full year as a natural, I’m preparing to make greater gains in year two and become more familiar with the hair that’s suppose to be on my crown. 🙂