I know by now you’ve figured out I wasn’t doing my traditional yearly countdown.  There was so much going on and I wanted to handle this special time of year in a new way.  So, I decided to make an extra long post and bring you up to speed at one time.  I hope you enjoy it and let me know if you prefer the other way.  These are in no particular order but these are the moment that stands out in 2017. Let’s get it started.

Moving to 7732 – After a rocky and moldy ending (literally) in my old apartment, we were relocated to another unit on the complex. As you noticed through this blog and pictures on Instagram, I invested a lot of time into making that place feel like home. So when I moved over here, I didn’t even have the energy. We’ve been here since March and I still haven’t got this place organized. Let’s add that I truly thought I would be moving into the home I purchased this year but you all know what happened there. It’s a better apartment. Larger. Better views of the Detroit River. The neighbors are priceless. However, over the last half of the year, I’ve been living in a constant MAJOR construction site. They’re completely overhauling this property. This includes digging to install gas lines to offer residents forced and central air. Well, the majority of this smelly work is taking place right outside my windows and the smell is sickening. Now, the query on my brain is – do I wait for them to finish or move on to another place? I have time to think but I truly need to weigh out my options.


Year of Music – Oh, I saw some great acts this year starting with Thundercat. Chene Park offered up a few artists I couldn’t pass on. I didn’t hit the road as much this year for music but I had to see Chris Brown in Chicago. My cousin even got me out the house to see Xscape. Solange, Tyler the Creator, Boney James, Roy Ayers, Lalah Hathaway, Will Downing, Chante Moore and my jazz festival crew. In addition to those people, I saw a true legend this year – Patti Labelle. Outside of the live shows, I discovered a crew of new artists that I have every intention of seeing live – Smino, Moodchild, H.E.R, Daniel Caesar, and a few others.  My ears and heart were pleased. I didn’t make it to Paisley Park but I’ll get there in the new year.  My SeatGeek and StubHub notifications are loaded and I’m sure I’ll get around a little more in the new year.

AVMs – on Dec. 6, I called 911 to assist me because somehow the entire right side of my body went numb and I couldn’t get it to do what I commanded. As the dispatcher listened to my request for help, she asked, “why do you feel you’re having a stroke?” My response lacked no candor, ‘Bitch, because I’ve already had one. Help me.’ That was the best I could give her. The EMTs arrived and I dropped another B bomb. By the time I arrived at the local hell of emergency rooms, all my faculties were functioning. Afraid of a repeat battle with aphasia, I kept talking and reading everything. After a few hours and some rushed tests, they came back and said it was a TIA. Oh yeah, I thought, ‘fuck this I’m outta here’ and signed myself out. Then, my friend, Reggie appeared only to walk me back to the emergency room. (You never know how blessed you are until you look into the faces of your friends. My friends are unmatched. All of them are true blue. That’s only because they know the type friend I am.) As we sat there, catching up, laughing, trying to see if this nurse was worth him shooting his shot lol and talking about life, I appreciated him a little more. We were only planning to go out that night, I guess we did. Ha! He had done God’s work. I stayed in that hell hole until Friday. While I was there they diagnosed me as having another small stroke/TIA/vasoconstriction/AVMs. The reason it wasn’t a stroke is that I have no residual deficiencies. This TIA business was still up in the air but they presented 2 additional causes. These grabbed my attention and I needed to get to Dr. Miller at Henry Ford to confirm. I was active in a situation where I did NOT trust the people who had my life in their hands. After styling on them for one week in comfortable pajamas, twisting my hair daily, cleansing and moisturizing my face (thanks to Tamika) and laying on my satin pillowcase, I walked out calling my neurologist. He made room for me and I’m going to take all these findings over to him. I’ll let him tell me what our next steps are. One thing I know for sure, I’m going to live.

Rocket Love – After 4 years, the relationship I thought was going to mature into spending the rest of my life with Gino S., is over. Yep, that’s his name. I kept that real close, lol. himThis is the main reason I’ve gone missing over the last part of 2017. I don’t even have the energy to type it out. Bottomline: The feeling he had was that I was spying on him for the UAW or someone more powerful.  He’s being psychologically manipulated and I’m helping them do this to him. He doesn’t trust anything I say or even being around me. Trust me, I’m still confused but hey – maybe entering the institution of marriage – isn’t in the cards for me.  I still believe in love but at this point, I’m not sure if I even want to go through this again. This one hurt more than any other. The reason for this is because I’ve done none of what he believes and I truly felt I had found my best friend and life partner in this man. I stayed single for so long and when I opened myself up again, BAM I got hit. Understand this is the one thing I was protecting myself from and it still happened. Feel free to listen.  There is more but I just wanted to share a piece. My truth is all that matters to me.  Something that I’m not aware of happened (mental health issues) and he needed to push me away.

Book Author Ambitions – This year I decided to write a book. After writing this blog for 5 years and putting this idea on the back burner, I’m finally going to dedicate some time to finish it. If you follow me on Facebook, you can find out the title. I can promise you – it won’t be a short story. 🙂

New Assignment – In June, one of the best bosses I’ve ever had transitioned to the next chapter in his professional life. We truly had a great working relationship and you all know how much I enjoy stability but I had to accept this. His transition spearheaded mine and that included me moving away from everything I was familiar with except my parking garage. Lol, that had to remain the same. I may have started kicking and screaming. Moreover, this was my opportunity to show my worth on the team. Display that I had grown from the time I had joined the company. I had become more proficient and knowledgeable in the role. More importantly, this showed me they trusted me to transition seamlessly and learn about the new business organization I would be supporting. What I didn’t know was, this was only the beginning. At the end of November, I was informed I would be supporting our newest Senior Executive Leader. Wow! As word got around, the congratulatory messages and visits came and none was more surprising than that from Captain Stadwick. I still call him boss and always feel like I represent him and Rebecca. That’s the type of person I am – I just don’t want to disappoint the people that believe/support me. My new director seems nice and I’m sure we’ll build a great working relationship. Do I see you on the horizon STABILITY!? 🙂

Kid Graduating – I’m still excited about that kid graduating. He’s sincere about getting a degree. I think my sermons about making a life for yourself got through to him. With one img_4230semester under his belt, he’s still excited about school. We’ve experienced some bumpy roads but it was time for me to let him go & grow.  He’s becoming his own man and there’s not much I can do for him at this point.  He needs to work those things out for himself. I’m a little nervous about some military conversations he’s been having with some soldiers. I mean who would want their child to be in the military with a leader like 45. I’m not putting that guy’s name in my post but feel free to figure out who I’m talking about. Him graduating was certainly a major highlight of my life.

Lance – Y’all remember when I 1st start talking about getting a new car. I still love Cole but it was time for me to move on. After talking to our Technical Assistance Team, I settled on the CTS. Let me just tell you – I really love all the bells and whistles included in this vehicle. Eff all that – I love this car as a whole. The connectivity is unmatched. I haven’t even had it one year but I know I’ll be a repeat customer. It’s perfect for me. Don’t get me wrong there’s a vehicle from each of our brands that fit me. Buick LaCrosse, Chevrolet Silverado & GMC Yukon Denali. This Cadillac just spoke to me. Now, to try out the manual features when the weather breaks and only God knows when that’ll happen around Detroit. Lance

This hair – I still have my edges, more silver strands and it’s getting thicker. My plan is to wear wigs for the entirety of 2018. In addition, I will be doing chebe, hair supplements and deep conditioning on a regular basis. Some essential hair care practices were neglected throughout the year. My goal is APL by the end of 2018. I believe I can do it. So many stresses that were buried in my mind have eradicated themselves or I’ve made a pact to not allow them to drain me anymore. My complete health is important to me and that includes my hair. It may not be billowing curls like Tracey Ellis Ross but it’s all mine. I heart my hair, still.

My favorite Asian – On a quick getaway to Battle Creek, Michigan, I bumped into an Asian store owner. I’ll be the 1st to tell you, I only remember 25% of what he said. The thing that will remain with me until I die is something he said about time. “To waste time is to waste your life.” Even one minute is waste…. I share this message with you, don’t waste one moment of your life.

LIVE…. I’ll see you in 2018 with more smiles. 🙂

After gracing the scene for one solid decade of NYE celebrations, I decided to do something different for 2017. Stalking in and slaying out. I designed a playlist of old favorites, missed productions and indies coupled with Chinese food and Belvedere. The look was simple:

  • Designer – Victoria’s Secret
  • Footwear – Bath & Body Works
  • Hair & Makeup – Puff & Not A Drop

Around 1:30A, I made my way to the bed. Oh, what a night to remember. I’ll be back! Most of all, I hope you enjoyed yourselves all over the world.

HAPPY NEW YEAR 🙂

As a child, I watched my mother become overwhelmed with the things the “reader” told her once a month or every other month.  I remember the notes she would write down and sitting in this woman’s home for what seemed like hours.  There was a specific time in my childhood when my mother kept a bowl of water underneath our beds to keep the bad spirits away from us.  I vowed to never get caught up in this type of thing in my adult life.  However, while enjoying some quality time with a friend I was personally introduced to something that I know will become a staple in my life.

Disclaimer: The way in which you practice your beliefs is not up for debate and neither are mine.

I was feeling a little down and per normal my friends don’t allow me to feel that way for too long.  On this day it was Eva’s turn to get my mind off of things.  On a gloomy Saturday afternoon, she came and picked me up and we adventured into the new shops littering the interior of Detroit.  She even got me to eat at Detroit Vegan Soul!  I had the smothered tempeh.  Don’t ask me what it is exactly because I kept calling it meatloaf and if I ever go back which I will because I like it – I’ll be having the same thing.  While we were talking and the rain began to come down, she told me about the Tarot & Tea place next door.  All I could think about was the way my mother would hang on the words of the “reader” and I said I would not be doing that.  This is what I love most about Eva – she understands when you say no and that’s pretty much it. Done deal!  As we were leaving the restaurant she says, “let me go in here and get you some white sage!”  Okay!  I’m thinking I just hang it up on the door or something.  We go inside the shop and it’s very pretty. Not like the “reader’s” home.  It was calming in there. Crystals, books and herbs aligned the shelves and I was caught up in a quartz that was so beautiful.  This was a distraction to keep me from making any real eye contact with the “readers.”  Eva made her purchase and we walked out to the car.

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She explained that I was suppose to use this to clear out the negative energy in my home.  All I needed to do was burn/smoke the herb and walk through my clean house with a few windows open. (It’s so warm in my place there’s always a window or two open.)  While I was doing this, I am required to pray for God to remove the negativity.  I’ll be honest it sounded like a little voodoo until she said I could say a prayer.

A couple weeks went by and I hadn’t performed the cleanse.  Then one Sunday I couldn’t stand it.  I needed to get this negative energy out of my life.  I woke up, cleaned up thoroughly and started the process.  The details of the prayer focused on bringing peace and removing the negativity from our home.  I felt a certain positive energy soon after.  I began feeling a great pull of bad over the pass few weeks and decided to do it again. What do you know, I felt lighter again.  Itsasifasthough (that’s an inside joke between Shawn and I but I’ll share it with you- just read it like you see it) I’ve laid my burdens down by the river side.  I really can’t explain it but that’s how I feel.  Here’s a little video to explain it a little bit better than I did if you’re more interested:

After the follow up, I’ve offered this treatment to my people because of the way it makes me feel.  It may be the white sage or it could be the intense prayer I offer up for peace.  Either way – I’m a newbie to the white sage ritual and I’m positive this will be in my life forever.

Have you ever tried this or something of the sorts?

I had a couple of posts last year about painting.  My painting days here were over.  This was under the assumption that I had completed this apartment to my liking and instructed my right-hand guy to dispose of the pigments.  In a moment during the spring cleaning, I discovered both colors under the sink.  In true Beau Miss style, I’m sure you know what happened next. 🙂
Within the next few weeks I scouted out areas in my temporary residence that needed a little life “off the wall.”  Of course I found the project I needed.  The dining room was screaming for a little attention. I had scored these white square frames from IKEA for $5 a piece.  They stored memories of one of my favorite events in Detroit, The Jazz Festival.  I generally pick up a poster at the fest to keep.  They turned out great after I cut them down to fit.  The dining room didn’t lack any visual interest.  All the walls are dedicated to my non judgmental best friend – music.  However, I had a grand vision for the space and some left over paint.  Take a look at what happened.


I truly love this look and was inspired to paint another area that was really perfectly fine.  The bathroom wasn’t bothering anyone but I had a half can of my favorite blue.  In the blink of an eye, I was on that wall with no abandon.  I like how it turned out but I have to build the decor up around it now!  (That totally wasn’t in the plan.)

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These projects were completed during the Memorial Day weekend.  Following these projects I threw the cans into the trash never to return.  In a small space such as this that doesn’t offer me any outdoor space via my apartment, I’m always looking for ways that display my personality.  I grew up in a home where we always looked for things to do around the house.  It’s in my nature to personalize any space I live in.  During the next couple weeks some things will happen to make these urges more permanent.  The clock is ticking!
What changes if any did you make in your home with the change of the season?  Don’t fret my pet, I held on to the painter’s tape just in cast I’m inspired again. 😉

It’s an almost never ending saga with me and furnishing my home. You could blame those endless hours of HGTV, DIY channel watching, Pinterest scrolling, my upbringing or my need for perfection.

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As I was walking in one day, I noticed a semi-empty space in need of attention. I like to have areas of interest. This one was lacking. On the top of my mini office resides my blinged out collection of picture frames. So whatever was going to live in this shared space had to sparkle. Then I found a quick fix to my compulsion. My love for Detroit would he highlighted here, again. (But that ain’t none of y’all business, lol). Off to the craft store we go!

I already had black poster board. The required supplies called for glitter, picture frame (any size), scissors, copy of the image and craft glue. While at my weekend home, JoAnn’s fabric and craft store, I discovered an ingenious product in glitter paper. A full sheet of paper with an adhesive backing covered in glitter. Well, slap me silly this project just became more cost efficient!!! I picked up some metallic pens to write a little message but that didn’t happen.

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Follow these simple instructions:

~ Print off a picture or template of the item you want to see in glitter. Trace it out on the back of the glitter paper.

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~ Cut out the poster board to fit the frame.

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~ Cut the picture out, leaving the protective covering on the back.

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~ Remove backing and position on poster board where ever you like.

~ Place inside frame and display anywhere.

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This beautiful addition to our home only cost $7 in supplies and 45 mins. I’ll have this forever! There are several pieces of Detroit in my home. Who said, there is a limit to my love of the place I call home? In what ways have you incorporated a geographic place into your living quarters?

There was a time when it was beneficial for me to stay close to that 8 Mile Road. Everything was at my disposal. Food, shopping and peace from the liveliness birthed in inner city neighborhoods. It was my great escape from everything I grew up around but I never lived in it. Moreover, the time had come for me to depart from my comfort zone.

So I packed my family and feelings up and moved into the downtown Detroit area. You’ve seen the Beau Miss Home, DIY and painting posts during the second half of the year. This has truly been a blessing for everyone involved. Most importantly – my peace of mind. My daily commute and time in the car has reduced by at least an hour. The job and his school are in close proximity which reduces my fuel expense. This was a great load off my shoulders and wallet.

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Moving into our new home definitely began the number one event for us all this year. Be on the lookout for a full tour very soon. I certainly foresee us being here until he graduates high school. However, LIFE always has a way of making other arrangements, lol.

Let’s get ready for tonight and a new year! Here’s to a Beautifully Understood 2014.

HGTV has been the channel of my heart since its premier in 1997. I like tackling home decor projects and creating my own personality in a space. This year I pulled all the stops out while creating a comfortable space for my family. All these episodes and Pinterest pins came into play as I settled in to the new digs.

I’ve painted more this year than I have in my entire life! It was all great fun, even the hauling of six solid oak chairs up and down 3 flights of stairs. The bedroom projects were the most fun. I’ve never displayed the young lad’s chalkboard wall. This has proven to be a great communication medium for us.

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The dining room is NOT complete as of yet but here’s a peek at the wall.

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Then I tackled a gallery wall of different size frames. It is not complete yet because I haven’t stopped to get 2 (YES, I said two!) pictures resized for their respective places. Here’s a shot of how that turned out so far.

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This is my family wall. The years to come will possibly result in the area growing. I’m happy with it. Then there is the entry way into the apartment. A small collection of picture taken from my Instagram.

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I have a few additional projects but I’m almost complete. It’s been fun. However, I won’t be engaging in too much of this activity in the upcoming year. Why? This place will be finished! 😉