As we age, we have to grow for true maturity. Staying in the same head space and sometimes even the same place can hinder us.  Evolution is uncomfortable. You’ve become familiar with one set of norms and growth challenges you to be someone different. 

I know it’s scary but with every day your life should become enriched with ideas and opportunities of growth. This in no way means you’ll have a new personality on a daily basis. If for some reason this happens, please seek professional assistance. At 30+, I don’t even think of things the same as I did at 30. I can truly say I’m growing, opening up to new experiences and looking for a every opportunity to smile. ūüôā

The purpose of my life may not be clearly visible but I’m acknowledging I want to get there. I believe everyone on this earth wants to live in their purpose – but how will you know if you’re stuck in the same spot. In order to discover everything or even a portion of what it feels like to live in your purpose you have to break away from some norms. Embrace the uncomfortableness of the process and BE GREAT. 

Have you noticed your evolution? Was it a welcomed change? 

Every couple of years a product hits the market that promises great results and financial growth.  You remember Noni juice, Body Magic, Mary Kay and Amway. I might be aging myself but these were companies that kept personal selling alive.  On my hair journey, I had researched all the supplements for hair growth.  I decided to give It Works a shot after hearing a few reviews about the limited to no side effects from taking the vitamin.

On New Year’s Day, I purchased a one month supply of the Hair Skin Nail vitamins.  The shipment seemed to take longer than expected but I took into account that I placed my order on a holiday weekend.  After my order was released from a hostage situation in the leasing office, I started me supplements on the 15th of January.  I was pleasantly surprised by the packaging.  (While I’m writing this, I’m sure there is another shipment being held in the leasing office. #MajorSideEye)

The vitamins are a pretty decent size.  I don’t have a problem with ingesting pills.  The problem I do have is taking them daily.  The instruction require you to take 2 a day with plenty of water.  I’ve been managing to stay the course.  All for the opportunity to create a gorgeous halo braid with my natural hair.  Another bonus, they DO NOT smell like vitamins.  Y’all know what I’m talking about – that almost medicinal yet herbal smell.  They feature a minty aroma which is somewhat inviting.  This has helped me immensely.

This is a close up of the ingredients contains in the supplements.  Recognize any familiar components from your healthy hair journey studies.  Trust me they’re all here.  Over these past few weeks, I have not experienced any breakouts on my skin.  In addition, some hyper-pigmentation I was experiencing on my face is healing faster than expected.


Supplements were the last thing on the list of things to promote greater length retention and growth.  I’ve already been on this journey for almost 3 years.  Even before the setback, I wasn’t where I should have been in terms of length.  However, I’d rather have healthier hair than longer hair.  Please don’t hold your breath waiting for me to post a picture of my current hair length.  I didn’t take one.  There are several reasons why I didn’t.

  • I haven’t straightened my hair since November 2015.
  • I didn’t want to become consumed with measuring the results.
  • I wanted to be surprised by the results at the end of my 90 days.
  • I have a difficult time taking proper images of my hair.
  • Plus, I know how damaging those images can be for the another person on the journey.

In reference to my last reason, I feel that sometime progress images can be more harmful than good.  I understand they are meant to be motivating.  Some people like to see the results of remaining on this journey.  There have been times when I have wanted to call it quits because my hair is growing slower than others.  So once I finish the 90 day supply, I will show you my results.  Let me know if you’re interested and smile.




I’m pretty organized. ¬†Every morning I’m up early – running through the things I mentally noted that I needed to take care of. ¬†Somehow, I manage to stop at least once a day to concentrate on what I was “suppose” to do. ¬†On occasion, I remember whatever it is and other times it comes to me as I lay me head on the pillow. ¬†I’m not proclaiming that I’m forgetful but I will acknowledge when change is needed. ¬†I was determined to get my schedule in in check and become more productive.

I purchased a daily planner from target the beginning of the year. ¬†Things were on track but I didn’t have enough space to write down what I needed. ¬†So, I only used the monthly view pages, which allowed me to see when I was doing things. ¬†I needed more! ¬†A colleague (HA! – I said colleague) of mine had shown me her Day Designer Planner early this year and I never forgot it. ¬†So I thought maybe this is something I need to invest in. ¬†Needless to say, I kept going with my poor method and wasn’t maximizing my day. ¬†In this new position, I realized that I had to get some order in my schedule. ¬†I was on the hunt. ¬†I liked the Day Designer but it wasn’t me. ¬†I went to my homie, YouTube for answers. ¬†Through a few comparison reviews and unboxings, I found the one for me in the eRiN Conderen brand.

Here it is! ¬†Isn’t it lovely? ¬†If you would like to hear the details of the order and features included, please follow me on Periscope @stoical127 for the live review. ¬†Why I chose to go with this company? ¬†I like the customization options because I don’t want to walk around with the same planner as everyone else. That’s just one of my quirks. ¬†The colors were bright and changed throughout the year in the planner. There are¬†motivation quotes, sufficient space to write and the little welcome pouch was a nice way to get you to try out other products. ¬†So I ordered the planner after I finally decided how I was going to decorate my work space. ¬†I decided on¬†the Cynthia Rowley Floral office collection to breathe a little life into my cube of beige.

After some very stiff competition, I went with my favorite shade of blue in navy surrounded by flowers and we know how much I love flowers. ¬†In an upcoming post I’ll show you how I decorated everything. ¬†There are still things to hang on the wall. ¬†You all know decorating takes time. ¬†It’s never as easy as HGTV will have you to believe. ¬†Is it wrong for me to want a chic chair or should I hold of until I get my library? ¬†ūüėČ ¬†I’ll be looking forward to your feedback in the comments.

Other reasons why I went with this I like the layout. It allows me to break my day up into 3 sections that are important to me and provide room for changes. ¬†I’m not taking about morning, noon and night. ¬†My days consists of fitness, work and evenings. ¬†I’ll have some pictures after I set it up for you to have a peek into my daily life. ¬†Another unconventional criterion was the CEO‘s energy. ¬†She put a face to and voice to the products. ¬†I felt she understood what some of us busy people feel. We want to take care of everything but feel there’s NEVER enough time in a day. ¬†Some people wouldn’t have cared that she made those YouTube videos but it mattered to me.

I’m in love and have picked up quite a few tips on how I can make planning fun and personal for me. ¬†The cover is my very own (check my IG: @bmisunderstood) picture and the cover can be switched out with another. ¬†This is awesome for me because I like to change things up from time to time and like the idea that I never have to lose my cover because it’s time for a new planner.

I’ll keep you updated on how everything progresses through the year and if this method works for me as well. ¬†ūüôā

I really don’t know how long this “natural hair journey” is going to last. ¬†The first big chop took place April 2, 2013 and I was making good progress. ¬†A pretty good balance was created between protective styles and heat. ¬†However, I developed a pretty nasty habit and it has been frowned upon. ¬†After my appointment had to be cancelled, I had to figure out another plan. The results are bittersweet. ¬†Stay around for the deets.

Let me start by saying, the time and effort that goes into natural hair care is underrated and appreciated. ¬†These last few weeks have proven to be more stressful than any other week in my journey. ¬†Every morning I’m brushing, twisting, fluffing, blending and styling to look presentable. ¬†When I get home I’m thinking of a way to style it so I won’t have to manipulate it in the morning. ¬†If the Mista wants to have a little QT, I’m out the game. ¬†This whole routine had become very stressful to me. ¬†Not to mention my almost non-existent wash days. ¬†I’m up for work then out until the evening. ¬†The domestic chores I need to complete are done during this time. ¬†Then with extreme pleasure I head off to the football field for the games on Saturday. ¬†On the seventh day, she rested and tries to get things together for the coming week. ¬†Can you find the room for the detangling, pre-pooing, shampoo, condition, deep condition and style? ¬†Right! ¬†I couldn’t either. ¬†I will honestly say that this journey has become very frustrating to me. ¬†I wanted to do something about it and check the health of my hair. ¬†You’ve seen the pictures of my hair over the year – it’s been growing. ¬†It was time for someone to confirm the visual professionally.

I reached out to the 1st stylist to set up an appointment on a day I was planning to treat myself to a day of beauty. ¬†She responded with her regrets due to travel. ¬†Then I scheduled services with another stylist that I trust. ¬†As we get closer to the day, I receive a text requesting I select another time due to an unforeseen event in their lives. ¬†If I reschedule, I’m not going to do it at all. ¬†Once I have my mind set on something, it’s either yay or nay. ¬†I cancelled my appointment and was on the hunt for someone with education and availability. ¬†I was recommended to a young woman in the Metro Detroit area that was familiar with the healthy hair practices. With faith the size of a mustard seed, I awaited for my appointment.

The location was nicely tucked away and welcoming. ¬†I described my practices and the things I was interested in with my hair. ¬†She talked with me about the products she was using on my hair and educated me on some of the things I have learned. ¬†What I didn’t have much stomach for was her¬†up sell of my need for a stylist on a regular basis, the phone conversations held while completing my hair and¬†the amount of time used to complete the appointment. ¬†The highest offense I took was her disparaging tone with regard to the education some of us naturalistas have adhered to on our journey. ¬†Yes, all of these practices may not work to the favor and glory of everybody but they have guided and taught so many of us along the way. ¬†Yes, my hair wasn’t in it’s best shape and I hadn’t retained as much lengthy as possible but I did grow my hair to collar bone length with no help. ¬†I held my tongue and allowed her to do what I came for. ¬†Wait, let me not forget how she talked down on the products I was using at home. ¬†I knew in that chair I would never come back to this shop again. ¬†Leaving crossed my mind several times but I was committed to the plan I created for the day. ¬†She commenced to straighten my hair and it had grown tremendously. ¬†I could have been prude and just figured it out for myself but I knew I needed to do this. ¬†I had some problem areas and I needed her to resolve them. ¬†She offered me a suggestion for Manetabolism. ¬†I’ve never taken a vitamin for my hair but it’s worth a shot. ¬†Let me give you the final diagnosis on my hair from the good doctor.

Even though my hair had grown substantially, I have been snapping the knots, split ends and being very rough with my mane. ¬†It was discovered that there were multiple area of my hair where some strands were long and others were shorter in¬†length. ¬†She told me it may be “nervous energy”¬†and you all know I had a lot going on over the past few months. ¬†So she may have hit that disorder on the head and I told her to cut. ¬†I’ve never been afraid of cutting my hair. ¬†There’s another idea brewing in my head to retain as much length as I can in the next year. ¬†Thant’s why I’m calling this BC #2. ¬†Here are the final results.


Does it look like mom hair? ¬†I like it but I miss my fluffy 3c-4a hair. ¬†The feeling of the wind blowing through my hair and wrapping it up every night brought back some old memories. I’m going to stretch this until Thanksgiving and then I’m getting back on the wagon. ¬†After I straighten my hair I’m always worried about it not reverting to it’s natural state. ¬†It’s so soft! ¬†I refuse to fall in love with this because I can’t wait to see is all curled up. ¬†Speaking of curls… those Lee beauty supply stores are only good for 3¬†things to me:

I was going to say 4 and add my wig but I just found some amazing placed to purchase from online. ¬†Which I just ordered because I will need it in the off season coming up! ¬†I didn’t even mention her “don’t wear wigs everyday” spill. ¬†I think that’s what keeps my hands out of my hair most. ¬†Anyway, I went and picked up some new flexi-rods because my sister lost the other set I owned. ¬†In addition, I got some smaller perm rods for the shorter hair in the back and can’t wait to style it. ¬†So, if you asked me if I like the cut? ¬†I’ll tell you,¬†yes, only because I’m thinking of every imaginable style I can recreate.


I’ll post some style photos as I have a little fun. ¬†The point of it all. ¬†I’m still on the journey, experienced a setback but I’m positive it’s in prep for my comeback. ūüėČ Keep smiling!

One the 35th anniversary of my birth. I feel older, wiser and even more ready for the next adventures of my life. There may have been times when I’ve cried, laughed and gave a serious tongue lashing. None of these moments hindered who I’ve become.


My life may not be where I planned. I have excepted what was and have designated the energy to be happy. That’s one of the greatest things I possess. My happiness is not determined by material gains. The idea I’m consistently working toward is a mental state or pure happiness. I haven’t reached the apex but I’m making steps toward it everyday.

It was all a blur this year. Between all the work and professional workshops, Sleeping Beauty Hair Garments was put on hold to establish a more secure foundation. This was a hard decision but I knew what needed to be done. Even with this acknowledgment, it managed to find it’s way into a few more homes and sleeping beauties.

During The Powerful Women’s Luncheon, I met a young lady interested in having Sleeping Beauty Hair Garments available to her salon customers. The introduction was well received and the customers were satisfied with their pieces. We had forged another great relationship with another local beauty shop. With this exciting news, I was determined to work on one of my goals for the company. Moreover, I wanted to make sure my product was protected.

I purchased another marketing tool to move SBHG to the next level. These window clings will be placed in all participating salons selling the garments to the public. We’re currently working on building a website and product placement in more Detroit salons.

I’m proud of the minimal growth we had this year. The plan for 2015 will guarantee people know exactly who Sleeping Beauty is, what we offer and why we’re the optimal source for these healthy hair tools.


Yes, I completed the second year of journalling my journey on January 10th! It came up so fast after the new year it slipped right by me. Unnecessary to say that I’m still enjoying myself & finding more strength in my choices, embracing my pitfalls, relishing in my accomplishments and maintaining a more conscious social experience.

It seems so fitting that in the coming months there will be changes, additions and re-introductions of old favorites. Here’s what I currently have in store and I’m going to work hard to follow my plan. (Y’all know sometime I get a little side tracked ūüėČ ) During this year I’m willing to offer up more of me and my life!

The changes I want to make are concentrated on the frequency of posts and type. As some of you’ve already noticed, I’ve included the Beau Miss Series in this blog, which actually came from another blog I was attempting to write. The stress of wanting to have the lifestyle features & journaling my journey was too much. I decided to close it down and incorporate it into my story because it is a part of who I am. I love all things domestic and included in making a home. There will be recipes, decor inspiration, my favorite things and news on exciting events! There will be more photos of my fashion choices. This is just to illustrate my current looks and fashion sense. It’s pretty simple to me but others find it bold and amazing. Another area of Beautifully Misunderstood that receiving a makeover is the Beautifully Understood Series, these are our inspirational quotes from individuals that resonate with us to look at things in a different light! I’m going to get back to doing those. In addition on the 27th of every month (because that’s my burfdate) I’m going to do an Oprah Says. She is one of the most influential people in my life. I felt we might need a positive push into the next month. I want to post more of the Happiness Quest Interviews but the reception from the invited features lags and there are only 5 questions. Hopefully I can re-energize the series in 2014. I only had 1 last year. ūüė¶ This will move the journal into a new space but I’ll continue to communicate with you as I always have – COMFORTABLY!

I thank you all for being with me, liking my stories and your kind comments! You all are the best for taking interest in one of Detroit’s own & I’m not talking about Kwame Kilpatrick! ūüėÄ

Keep smiling! It’s the 1st step to feeling better!!

Thank You So Much!!!

Blow out the candle on the cake… Beautifully Misunderstood’s turning 1 today!!!!

A year ago to the day, I introduced myself & my HAPPINESS journey to the world through this blog.. The expedition was full of smiles, laughs & a few sad faces accompanied by a tear or two. It isn’t over the way I planned. I was going to stop writing this blog after the year but THIS has given me the strength to move forward and take on new and exciting things…


My wish as I blow out the flame on the 1st candle is that we get to celebrate another year, find strength in our choices, enjoy this international social experience and have more accomplishments to share. Is the journey over? No! It has shifted into the next gear. We’re moving forward.

I’d like to introduce you to the daughter of Beautifully Misunderstood…. Beau Miss Lifestyle!!! Here you will find recipes, home decorating ideas & remedies and event recommendations. Look for these things in the coming weeks :). So excited!!

In the meantime, I’ll continue to share my story with you and :)…

Remember in 2012 on this day I said “You could’ve been anywhere in the world but you’re here with me I appreciate that.” I thank you more than you know… Let’s Move Toward HAPPY some more!!!