Told you I’d be back with a post about my hair.  I’m going to keep this post very sweet and short. I haven’t lost any hair.  My hair is growing. A strict regimen is needed. The wigs may get a revival.

So, I’ve been growing my hair out since my cut last summer.

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I can tell you it has grown since this picture. That’s solely due to my three girlfriends and flat twist.  My comfort level with my natural texture has grown immensely.  Straightening my hair almost brings me no joy beyond the initial day.  I worry about heat damage and hair reversion, lol. I think you’re familiar with all my protective styles.  I embraced the shorter wigs as well.  My next will be a long straight model.

Over the summer, I decided to allow a stylist to wash and condition my hair once a month.  This would allow me to keep up with trims and get a little relief from the dreaded wash day.  I noticed my hair wasn’t shedding as much as normal. But, I was still messing up in an area or two.  I wasn’t keeping up with my wash days. Allowing weeks go by without washing my hair or deep conditioning. Recent stress had snatched two plugs of hair from my scalp and I wasn’t happy about it.  Back to the peppermint oil, I ran and added lavender, eucalyptus, rosemary essential oils and black seed. More importantly, I still had my edges!

The hair was recovering and I noticed a few more grays around the perimeter.  Then I decided to get my hair straightened for a wedding and my anxiety was high.  My stylists I absolutely trust with my hair were booked, one was preparing for a big show and the other was styling a wedding. (You better have multiple stylists you trust and I’m not about to argue.) DAMN DAMN DAMN! So, I remembered a stylist that was close to me and specialized in natural hair care, Meah.  I set up an appointment and I put my tresses in her hands.  Praying all would be fine when I washed my hair the following week.img_4815-1

She gave me a protein treatment, which I hadn’t had in ages, and proceeded to blow dry my hair. I felt safe when she pulled out the heat protectant and the Wild Growth hair oil. Then she hit me with the one line women hate to hear from any stylist – “you need a trim.” Wtf! Everybody tells me that- fuck it do it.  I hate raggedy ends more than single-strand knots.  After she finished, she showed me the remains on the floor.  It wasn’t much and it appeared she just dusted the ends. I dared not show it on the outside but I was overjoyed.

Finally, I got caught in a light mist at the King HS homecoming game and the hair started to curl. 🙂  Then I made the choice to wash and DC like I had always done in the beginning of this journey and within minutes ALL of my curls and coils were accounted for.  Meah, definitely had my stamp of approval and considering I only wanted my hair washed/ blow dried once a month as a treat she certainly could be added to the rotation. I don’t remember how long it took me to wash my hair, condition and style it but it felt good. For the 4th time during this journey has a professional placed a pair of sheers to my mane and not chopped most of my hair off.  I twisted my hair in those flat-twists and made a vow to never miss wash day for the remainder of this journey.

#Mission2020 has begun.  “If the plan doesn’t work, change the plan to fit the goal.” My goal certainly has changed and I’m going to focus on doing my part to ensure I have the healthiest head of hair. Now when you see me in a few years with long Pippie Longstocking twists, remember I never gave up.  🙂

Have you had to re-evaluate your hair care regimen? What are your go-to methods for retaining length?

 

 

As we age, we have to grow for true maturity. Staying in the same head space and sometimes even the same place can hinder us.  Evolution is uncomfortable. You’ve become familiar with one set of norms and growth challenges you to be someone different. 

I know it’s scary but with every day your life should become enriched with ideas and opportunities of growth. This in no way means you’ll have a new personality on a daily basis. If for some reason this happens, please seek professional assistance. At 30+, I don’t even think of things the same as I did at 30. I can truly say I’m growing, opening up to new experiences and looking for a every opportunity to smile. 🙂

The purpose of my life may not be clearly visible but I’m acknowledging I want to get there. I believe everyone on this earth wants to live in their purpose – but how will you know if you’re stuck in the same spot. In order to discover everything or even a portion of what it feels like to live in your purpose you have to break away from some norms. Embrace the uncomfortableness of the process and BE GREAT. 

Have you noticed your evolution? Was it a welcomed change? 

I’ve taken my vision board down in anticipation of adding new items and removing accomplishments.  As we come within a few days of the new year, it’s time to focus on goal planning/review of a year come and gone too soon.  Seeing your goals and making a plan has truly helped me over the year.  When I looked at my current VB, I realized multiple things.

  1. It was realistic
  2. Some of my goals have changed
  3. This did not reflect the totality of my dreams

I haven’t picked up enough magazines to update it. However, over the holiday break I’ve set a date to make my edits.

In all honesty, I was conservative about placing my vision up on the board because I didn’t want to be questioned or judged.  This is MY VISION BOARD and I have a very specific idea about my future and I certainly can’t allow the fears of other to depict my happiness.

Oprah tells us to make our plans grandiose and believe we can have it all.  What you want is never too much… the idea you have to come to terms with is the plan to reach your goal.  Remember happiness is the goal.  It’s our time to believe in the dreams we have for ourselves.
Have you begun thinking about what you want to accomplish in 2017?  Did you experience success this year?

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It’s been a crazy couple months for me.  I’ve taken some steps to get me closer to completion of some items on my vision board.  I’m still a long way from my ultimate goals. This quote gave peace and a reason to smile about my current achievements.


Everything I’m experiencing will lead me to my goals in the new year.  The new chapter of my life.  As we venture into the second half of the year, let’s rejoice in this time and the steps we make toward happiness.

Addition is a serious situation.  It doesn’t always come in the form of illegal or legal drugs, gambling, sex or video games.  The definition is as follows: a state characterized by compulsive engagement in rewarding stimuli despite adverse consequences.  I have an addiction.

Mine consists of lace, elastic, soft fabrics and maybe only a handful of people see besides me.  My strange addiction is Victoria’s Secret.  I’ve confessed this to you before.  Remember? (in my Drake voice). This can’t be hurting me – right? You’re correct to a point.

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Once a month I receive a catalogue filled with all the things I love about women’s undergarments. I fold pages, mark things off and strategize how I’m going to purchase my shopping cart in a timely fashion.  Every month, except during the semi-annual sale, I receive a postcard containing coupons to save on my purchases of bras.  Let’s not even throw in whatever that promotional gift is albeit a bag, towel or umbrella.  I like feeling good under my clothes, the way this man looks at me when I undress and having a beautiful selection of panties and bras.  Let’s do a small math problem. $75 x 10 =$750 then multiply this by 3 equals $2250.  This is roughly the amount of money I’ve spent in the time we’ve known each other.

There are some things going on in my life that require more of my finances.  I’d like to go back to school and I DO NOT want to acquire any more debt.  My car has been giving me trouble over the last couple months and the inevitable is about to occur.  The financial strain of a 16-year-old young man attacking your groceries daily has produced a new expense.  Let’s not even mention the responsibilities of a football parent.  These are the biggest factors effecting my pocketbook.  My lifestyle has changed for the better but in order to complete some items on my to do list. We need to hold on to a few more coins.

While having a conversation with “beau,” I was told I spend too much money on my Victoria’s Secret addiction.  I was insulted as he sat there saying I had more than enough.  So I counted and realized, I can go six full weeks without wearing a matching set more than once.  Was he right?  No!  Then I visited my newest favorite location within the Oakland Mall in Troy, MI to purchase some new additions.  Guess what happened – new bra size for little Ms. Understood. Is that a reason to stop indulging?  No!  What would make me reconsider my spending?  This!

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This image says more than you think.  I have spent $130 to store these garments properly.  They literally take up an entire washing machine on wash day and that costs me $3 per load.  That’s to wash and dry if I don’t hang them up to dry.  My addiction is truly costing me.  However, I have come up with a plan to save a little cash and still feel sexy every chance I get.  Just buy them every other month as a treat for myself as I work on disciplining myself financially.

It took me a while to recover from the “Unmentionable” caper.  I had to admit that I have and grew my collection.  The option of using another company but I’m loyal to VS.  It may not be big to you but it’s on the verge of everything to me.

Have you had to let some things go or modify your life for financial purposes? What were your reasons?

It’s hard to think about a career move with a high school sophomore.  We’re looking into universities, scholarships and concentrating on the current curriculum.  So, where would I have the time to think about what I want?  Now!  It’s the perfect time for me to consider my options for the future. One of my biggest desires is to go back to school and get a graduate degree.  I’ll be an empty nester in no time.  Hell, I’m practically one now.

Going back to school has been on my to-do list for some time.  Of course you all know that so much has went on in my life over the last few years.  However, that should not be an excuse.  I have put this off for far too long.  It keeps wearing at my mind.  I need to make an appointment to get my my facts straight and wrap my mind around going the educational distance for me.  With so many programs to choose from, I decided to stay with the school of business and work on a MBA.  I don’t have any lavish plans for my career afterward.  I’ve just always wanted a Master’s degree.

As I set my vision board up all of the things I’ve dreamed about and long for are present.  The one image that drives me up the wall and seems urgent is that post-graduate degree.  Everyone keeps asking me “why?”  My response is always the same – “because I should have it by now!”

As I accomplish items on my board, I’ll be sure to share with you.  What dream have you foregone and want to conquer in the near future?

As always, number 7 resides on the 25th.  Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to you all over the world.

I look like I have all the answers.  Maybe that is because I’m forever open to learning how I can be better.  This is in relation to anything I am involved with in my life.  My recent journey into entrepreneurship was in need of direction.  Sure I had formal education but even since my days in the classroom, business has changed.  The only thing I acknowledged was my need for assistance and direction.  After watching my Instagram feed, I became interested in the things The Powerful Women were doing to assist local women in business.  I wanted to see what they had to offer.

A workshop, this was going to tell us how to set up the business to move it forward successfully.  I figured I could use a refresher course and gather some additional information to propel Sleeping Beauty Hair Garments, so I signed up.  To my surprise I received an email informing me due to my registration for the workshop there was an opportunity for me to attend a motivational session with a world renown speaker, Dr. Laureen Wishom.  I was excited and attended both events, taking notes on what I needed to do to become better in business and in my personal life.  After the workshops, I had enough momentum to research the things I needed to change and create.  Soon after the announcement of The Powerful women’s Luncheon arrived and I purchased my ticket.  This is a great event for women to network and work to build our community of women business owners and professionals up positively.

I really appreciated these experiences.  They allowed me to set some goals for 2015 and made me take my small business seriously.  My expectations are high for the upcoming events in the new year.