I know by now you’ve figured out I wasn’t doing my traditional yearly countdown.  There was so much going on and I wanted to handle this special time of year in a new way.  So, I decided to make an extra long post and bring you up to speed at one time.  I hope you enjoy it and let me know if you prefer the other way.  These are in no particular order but these are the moment that stands out in 2017. Let’s get it started.

Moving to 7732 – After a rocky and moldy ending (literally) in my old apartment, we were relocated to another unit on the complex. As you noticed through this blog and pictures on Instagram, I invested a lot of time into making that place feel like home. So when I moved over here, I didn’t even have the energy. We’ve been here since March and I still haven’t got this place organized. Let’s add that I truly thought I would be moving into the home I purchased this year but you all know what happened there. It’s a better apartment. Larger. Better views of the Detroit River. The neighbors are priceless. However, over the last half of the year, I’ve been living in a constant MAJOR construction site. They’re completely overhauling this property. This includes digging to install gas lines to offer residents forced and central air. Well, the majority of this smelly work is taking place right outside my windows and the smell is sickening. Now, the query on my brain is – do I wait for them to finish or move on to another place? I have time to think but I truly need to weigh out my options.


Year of Music – Oh, I saw some great acts this year starting with Thundercat. Chene Park offered up a few artists I couldn’t pass on. I didn’t hit the road as much this year for music but I had to see Chris Brown in Chicago. My cousin even got me out the house to see Xscape. Solange, Tyler the Creator, Boney James, Roy Ayers, Lalah Hathaway, Will Downing, Chante Moore and my jazz festival crew. In addition to those people, I saw a true legend this year – Patti Labelle. Outside of the live shows, I discovered a crew of new artists that I have every intention of seeing live – Smino, Moodchild, H.E.R, Daniel Caesar, and a few others.  My ears and heart were pleased. I didn’t make it to Paisley Park but I’ll get there in the new year.  My SeatGeek and StubHub notifications are loaded and I’m sure I’ll get around a little more in the new year.

AVMs – on Dec. 6, I called 911 to assist me because somehow the entire right side of my body went numb and I couldn’t get it to do what I commanded. As the dispatcher listened to my request for help, she asked, “why do you feel you’re having a stroke?” My response lacked no candor, ‘Bitch, because I’ve already had one. Help me.’ That was the best I could give her. The EMTs arrived and I dropped another B bomb. By the time I arrived at the local hell of emergency rooms, all my faculties were functioning. Afraid of a repeat battle with aphasia, I kept talking and reading everything. After a few hours and some rushed tests, they came back and said it was a TIA. Oh yeah, I thought, ‘fuck this I’m outta here’ and signed myself out. Then, my friend, Reggie appeared only to walk me back to the emergency room. (You never know how blessed you are until you look into the faces of your friends. My friends are unmatched. All of them are true blue. That’s only because they know the type friend I am.) As we sat there, catching up, laughing, trying to see if this nurse was worth him shooting his shot lol and talking about life, I appreciated him a little more. We were only planning to go out that night, I guess we did. Ha! He had done God’s work. I stayed in that hell hole until Friday. While I was there they diagnosed me as having another small stroke/TIA/vasoconstriction/AVMs. The reason it wasn’t a stroke is that I have no residual deficiencies. This TIA business was still up in the air but they presented 2 additional causes. These grabbed my attention and I needed to get to Dr. Miller at Henry Ford to confirm. I was active in a situation where I did NOT trust the people who had my life in their hands. After styling on them for one week in comfortable pajamas, twisting my hair daily, cleansing and moisturizing my face (thanks to Tamika) and laying on my satin pillowcase, I walked out calling my neurologist. He made room for me and I’m going to take all these findings over to him. I’ll let him tell me what our next steps are. One thing I know for sure, I’m going to live.

Rocket Love – After 4 years, the relationship I thought was going to mature into spending the rest of my life with Gino S., is over. Yep, that’s his name. I kept that real close, lol. himThis is the main reason I’ve gone missing over the last part of 2017. I don’t even have the energy to type it out. Bottomline: The feeling he had was that I was spying on him for the UAW or someone more powerful.  He’s being psychologically manipulated and I’m helping them do this to him. He doesn’t trust anything I say or even being around me. Trust me, I’m still confused but hey – maybe entering the institution of marriage – isn’t in the cards for me.  I still believe in love but at this point, I’m not sure if I even want to go through this again. This one hurt more than any other. The reason for this is because I’ve done none of what he believes and I truly felt I had found my best friend and life partner in this man. I stayed single for so long and when I opened myself up again, BAM I got hit. Understand this is the one thing I was protecting myself from and it still happened. Feel free to listen.  There is more but I just wanted to share a piece. My truth is all that matters to me.  Something that I’m not aware of happened (mental health issues) and he needed to push me away.

Book Author Ambitions – This year I decided to write a book. After writing this blog for 5 years and putting this idea on the back burner, I’m finally going to dedicate some time to finish it. If you follow me on Facebook, you can find out the title. I can promise you – it won’t be a short story. 🙂

New Assignment – In June, one of the best bosses I’ve ever had transitioned to the next chapter in his professional life. We truly had a great working relationship and you all know how much I enjoy stability but I had to accept this. His transition spearheaded mine and that included me moving away from everything I was familiar with except my parking garage. Lol, that had to remain the same. I may have started kicking and screaming. Moreover, this was my opportunity to show my worth on the team. Display that I had grown from the time I had joined the company. I had become more proficient and knowledgeable in the role. More importantly, this showed me they trusted me to transition seamlessly and learn about the new business organization I would be supporting. What I didn’t know was, this was only the beginning. At the end of November, I was informed I would be supporting our newest Senior Executive Leader. Wow! As word got around, the congratulatory messages and visits came and none was more surprising than that from Captain Stadwick. I still call him boss and always feel like I represent him and Rebecca. That’s the type of person I am – I just don’t want to disappoint the people that believe/support me. My new director seems nice and I’m sure we’ll build a great working relationship. Do I see you on the horizon STABILITY!? 🙂

Kid Graduating – I’m still excited about that kid graduating. He’s sincere about getting a degree. I think my sermons about making a life for yourself got through to him. With one img_4230semester under his belt, he’s still excited about school. We’ve experienced some bumpy roads but it was time for me to let him go & grow.  He’s becoming his own man and there’s not much I can do for him at this point.  He needs to work those things out for himself. I’m a little nervous about some military conversations he’s been having with some soldiers. I mean who would want their child to be in the military with a leader like 45. I’m not putting that guy’s name in my post but feel free to figure out who I’m talking about. Him graduating was certainly a major highlight of my life.

Lance – Y’all remember when I 1st start talking about getting a new car. I still love Cole but it was time for me to move on. After talking to our Technical Assistance Team, I settled on the CTS. Let me just tell you – I really love all the bells and whistles included in this vehicle. Eff all that – I love this car as a whole. The connectivity is unmatched. I haven’t even had it one year but I know I’ll be a repeat customer. It’s perfect for me. Don’t get me wrong there’s a vehicle from each of our brands that fit me. Buick LaCrosse, Chevrolet Silverado & GMC Yukon Denali. This Cadillac just spoke to me. Now, to try out the manual features when the weather breaks and only God knows when that’ll happen around Detroit. Lance

This hair – I still have my edges, more silver strands and it’s getting thicker. My plan is to wear wigs for the entirety of 2018. In addition, I will be doing chebe, hair supplements and deep conditioning on a regular basis. Some essential hair care practices were neglected throughout the year. My goal is APL by the end of 2018. I believe I can do it. So many stresses that were buried in my mind have eradicated themselves or I’ve made a pact to not allow them to drain me anymore. My complete health is important to me and that includes my hair. It may not be billowing curls like Tracey Ellis Ross but it’s all mine. I heart my hair, still.

My favorite Asian – On a quick getaway to Battle Creek, Michigan, I bumped into an Asian store owner. I’ll be the 1st to tell you, I only remember 25% of what he said. The thing that will remain with me until I die is something he said about time. “To waste time is to waste your life.” Even one minute is waste…. I share this message with you, don’t waste one moment of your life.

LIVE…. I’ll see you in 2018 with more smiles. 🙂

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So when your Beau asks, ” do you wanna go to Traverse City next weekend?” Some of you may be jumping for joy. I was kinda in unfamiliar territory – I’m the planner and I didn’t have a hand in this at all.  I had never ventured into the northernmost parts of Michigan. This was going to be an adventure and I was willing to take it with him.  My hair was done, a bag was packed and we were on our way to a place we’d never been before.

A four-hour road trip was ahead of us, that may seem scary to some but I was ok with it. I even went as far as to not bring a book with me to stay engaged.  As always, we talked and listened to music.  I was in more amazement of the scenery – I love nature.  The ride was so peaceful and for some odd reason unknown, he really knows how to pick the right music for any mood.  We were cruising down the road and he pointed over yonder to the right of me and said, “that’s where we’re staying.”  So far so good.  It was the Grand Traverse Resort and Spa, very nice.

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We walked in and I was pleasantly surprised by what I saw. The room was magnificent and the view was breathtaking.  I placed that bottle of champagne that had been weighing my purse down on the table and took in everything.  This man had done a good job. There was a small wrapped package that brought me great pause. ‘What was it?’ Oh, just chocolate covered strawberries to welcome me to my Mother’s Day weekend getaway.  I totally forgot it was Mother’s Day weekend.  My kid was so old and breathing down the neck of adulthood this event has just slid by me year after year. Another point for this man!

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We got out of this beautiful place to eat and see more of the local area.  I was lightweight overwhelmed with the whole thing.  I didn’t want to spend the weekend taking pictures of different things and places.  I really wanted to focus on the time we were having together. It was beautiful and just like that we were on our way back to our regularly scheduled programs. A million ideas went running through my mind over those four days and I had missed the main one.  He just wanted to do something nice for me for Mother’s Day. Needless to say, I saw a different side of him that weekend.

I was surprised by how much I like it.  We’re polar opposites when it comes to travel (he’s a lake and I’m an ocean, literally) but I’m sure this won’t be the last time I get to “Cherryland.” There’s a little place within me that’s designated this as “our place.” We’ve even considered some alternative destinations on future travel.  I’d love to be there during the warmer months to do a little star gazing. The next time he’s ready to go I won’t have any trepidation. Moreover, he’s proven himself to be trustworthy when making travel arrangements that include me.  🙂

I left you all hanging on the “Between an Equinox and a Solstice” post.  Let me see where I left off.  There may not be much to fill you in on because I’ve been posting on the regular again, lol. Keep in mind a lot of time passed and I really remember what I need to post through my camera roll.  This should be exciting.


Yep, if you picked her you’re correct.  They became the Ruckers on June 19th in the state of Michigan.  The ceremony was beautiful and she was a stunning bride.  Once again, the original SoMe musketeers were together.  After battling a cocktail hour and dinner line, I headed back to my home for a relaxing evening.  Congrats are in order to the bride again for keeping the drama to a minimum.

It takes a lot for me to ask someone for help. You can blame my foolish pride for that trait.  Over the pass several years, I’ve needed a friend on more than one occasion and you wouldn’t believe they all came through for me.  However, I thank God for sending Melanie into my life.  She’s been a genuine friend.  From my days of underemployment when she would whisk me off to the show or dinner until now.  Words can not express my appreciation for her friendship.  So when she said she was celebrating her burfday, you know I had to be there.  She looked beautiful and happy.


Now, I may not be turning up like I use to, hell I’m 35 and have done the most.  Add this to the facts, I really just adore quiet nights at home, now.  In some cases, I find it imperative that I get out to spin around on the dance floor every once in a while.  Here I am with my original crew and Eva (I forget the young lady’s name that was with us).  If you see a pattern in my clothing you’ll be on point for my next post. 🙂



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You could say I had a good time during my break.  You could also say I didn’t do too much out of the ordinary.  What you won’t be able to say is I wasn’t smiling! 🙂 #AllTheWay like Frank Sinatra!

There’s nothing more gratifying than giving back to a worthy cause and I believe music culture including fine arts is a great program to invest in – especially in Detroit.  Bravo Bravo has come an gone and in true Beau Miss style, I’m going to tell you a little more about the evening’s events.  This year MaShawn joined me again and Eva made her debut!  You’ll notice a few familiar faces from the pics but the night was totally original.

This is an event you don’t want to miss.  It’s like the MET Gala on a Detroit scale.  High fashion, charity, celebrities and plenty of networking mixed with a whole lotta liquor.  In the name of fashion I decided to use my new go to find for all the special events in my life.  Rent the Runway or RTR allows ladies to lease high fashion garments at a small fraction on the retail cost of owning them.  This totally cut down my shopping time for this event.  I selected a NHA KAHNH dress and decided to wear the shoes I wore last year with the same bag.  Who goin check me?  Lol


This was the 1st choice of my quasi-stylist.  It fit like a glove and complimented my slim hourglass frame perfectly.  The next move was in the hair department.  This dress was so beautiful I wanted my hair to compliment instead of compete.  My newest weapon again blending with the rest of the attendees – Cold Wave Rods.  My go to hair styler.  So I got my hair pressed by my OG gangsta on these locks, Fred Converse of Dolce International Salon.  This man only did my hair for 11 years and knows my hair.  A quick ride home and setting the rollers in my hair had me riding around town like THIS.


Hunty, I had bought lashes and everything for this event and didn’t put them on Lawd Geezus.  When Eva showed up it was time or me to pull all my “S” together.  Makeup on soft and simple, nails on a clean clear coat and fragrance is The One by Dolce & Gabanna.  The completed look – elegant. A quick ride up the block to get MaShawn and let the party begin!


The food was fab as always and of course I found another little drank that was totally delicious. You already know   NOTHING is replacing my day one Belvedere. However, I’ve never let that ruin my night.  The drink I really liked was at the station next to the Rum Chata and I don’t even know the name.  😦

In true style and expectation, I ran into a few familiar faces.


  
What can I say, it’s BRAVO BRAVO.  It’s always a good time capped with a great grab bag at the end of the night.


Until next… Party less and impact your community through charity.  I mean they really know how to throw a party.

Great night as always!

I apologize for the tardiness of this post.  There was a little anxiety surrounding this one.  I’ve done it all: travel, party, club and dinners.  This year I wanted to do something different.  I celebrated my 35th year on this planet.  The inquires were coming in and all I wanted was to be thankful that I was here.

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The plan went as follows – dinner at the amazing 24 Grille for my favorite food – salmon.  Yes, I know I went there last year and a few other times in the year, lol!  Hair would  be in it’s natural state and I would push the envelope to wear something I had in my closet.  This wasn’t even going to happen on the day of my birth.  During the evening, a hypnotic selection of music played through the sound system, which felt like it was just for me.  I later found out it was The Foreign Exchange Pandora Station.  We talked, laughed, drank and ate multiple times after a routine visit to Sweetwater Tavern.  To much avail I drank all and drove home to the sounds of the R. cd from the 90s.  Talk about a good time.

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Monday came and everyone wanted to know “What are you doing?”  What they didn’t know was I had a plan for something special and unexpected.  It was going to be explosive.  With my main guy in tow we headed to Phantom Fireworks in Livonia, MI.  I had the store all to myself and we bought exactly more of what I wanted.

Tuesday, January 27, 2015, my greetings were coming in non stop.  Calls, texts and post on every social media platform warmed my hear all day long.  After dinner and a nap, my guy walked me to the Detroit River and we had our own fireworks show.  It was a pure spectacle – one I thoroughly enjoyed.  On the walk back home, we encountered a woman screaming. “Do y’all know where that big boom came from?”  Uh no!  This will be my new tradition from now until.

Due to the milestone of this year, I have decided to celebrate every month on the 27th.  Some people have stretched their celebrating to the entire month of birth.  Who could possibly challenge me for celebrating all year?  All major events will be attended dressed in blue (my favorite color).  I’ve taken this opportunity to also switch up the image of my blog in direct relation to my Blueprint year.  I’ll keep you updated on all the festivities.  This is my fourth birthday we have shared together.  I know it won’t be the last.

The one day experiences I had on two occasions this year were much needed and enjoyed. First, it was a birthday celebration and quick getaway from everything that was Detroit except our personalities. The flash road trip to see The Carters in their Toronto show. This opened a new door for me that I was willing to frequent more often in the future.

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Even as tired as I was, I had a nice time. The Amtrak train ride was restful. I definitely see racking up a few more miles on my card very soon. Checked out a few things in some non- Metro Detroit retailers. After our quick change, I had the bread of The Lord. I haven’t had bread from another restaurant since that day and I probably won’t until I have it again. Somebody made mention of another run out there and I’m game. Within six weeks I was due to be back on the run. This time on the road.

You know I made it to that OTR tour and I have never had so much fun at a concert in my life. It was worth everything I went through to get there. Switching days at work, driving four hours on international roads and listening to the GPS send us in circles. This was an experience. Need I say more than your average concert. I had seen Jay Z before but I certainly found out the power of Beyoncé.

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I have to chart some new territory but these little day trips could be a go. If you know of any nice destinations in the Midwest area, leave a comment and I’ll make a plan.

As always, number 7 resides on the 25th.  Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to you all over the world.

I look like I have all the answers.  Maybe that is because I’m forever open to learning how I can be better.  This is in relation to anything I am involved with in my life.  My recent journey into entrepreneurship was in need of direction.  Sure I had formal education but even since my days in the classroom, business has changed.  The only thing I acknowledged was my need for assistance and direction.  After watching my Instagram feed, I became interested in the things The Powerful Women were doing to assist local women in business.  I wanted to see what they had to offer.

A workshop, this was going to tell us how to set up the business to move it forward successfully.  I figured I could use a refresher course and gather some additional information to propel Sleeping Beauty Hair Garments, so I signed up.  To my surprise I received an email informing me due to my registration for the workshop there was an opportunity for me to attend a motivational session with a world renown speaker, Dr. Laureen Wishom.  I was excited and attended both events, taking notes on what I needed to do to become better in business and in my personal life.  After the workshops, I had enough momentum to research the things I needed to change and create.  Soon after the announcement of The Powerful women’s Luncheon arrived and I purchased my ticket.  This is a great event for women to network and work to build our community of women business owners and professionals up positively.

I really appreciated these experiences.  They allowed me to set some goals for 2015 and made me take my small business seriously.  My expectations are high for the upcoming events in the new year.