Told you I’d be back with a post about my hair.  I’m going to keep this post very sweet and short. I haven’t lost any hair.  My hair is growing. A strict regimen is needed. The wigs may get a revival.

So, I’ve been growing my hair out since my cut last summer.

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I can tell you it has grown since this picture. That’s solely due to my three girlfriends and flat twist.  My comfort level with my natural texture has grown immensely.  Straightening my hair almost brings me no joy beyond the initial day.  I worry about heat damage and hair reversion, lol. I think you’re familiar with all my protective styles.  I embraced the shorter wigs as well.  My next will be a long straight model.

Over the summer, I decided to allow a stylist to wash and condition my hair once a month.  This would allow me to keep up with trims and get a little relief from the dreaded wash day.  I noticed my hair wasn’t shedding as much as normal. But, I was still messing up in an area or two.  I wasn’t keeping up with my wash days. Allowing weeks go by without washing my hair or deep conditioning. Recent stress had snatched two plugs of hair from my scalp and I wasn’t happy about it.  Back to the peppermint oil, I ran and added lavender, eucalyptus, rosemary essential oils and black seed. More importantly, I still had my edges!

The hair was recovering and I noticed a few more grays around the perimeter.  Then I decided to get my hair straightened for a wedding and my anxiety was high.  My stylists I absolutely trust with my hair were booked, one was preparing for a big show and the other was styling a wedding. (You better have multiple stylists you trust and I’m not about to argue.) DAMN DAMN DAMN! So, I remembered a stylist that was close to me and specialized in natural hair care, Meah.  I set up an appointment and I put my tresses in her hands.  Praying all would be fine when I washed my hair the following week.img_4815-1

She gave me a protein treatment, which I hadn’t had in ages, and proceeded to blow dry my hair. I felt safe when she pulled out the heat protectant and the Wild Growth hair oil. Then she hit me with the one line women hate to hear from any stylist – “you need a trim.” Wtf! Everybody tells me that- fuck it do it.  I hate raggedy ends more than single-strand knots.  After she finished, she showed me the remains on the floor.  It wasn’t much and it appeared she just dusted the ends. I dared not show it on the outside but I was overjoyed.

Finally, I got caught in a light mist at the King HS homecoming game and the hair started to curl. 🙂  Then I made the choice to wash and DC like I had always done in the beginning of this journey and within minutes ALL of my curls and coils were accounted for.  Meah, definitely had my stamp of approval and considering I only wanted my hair washed/ blow dried once a month as a treat she certainly could be added to the rotation. I don’t remember how long it took me to wash my hair, condition and style it but it felt good. For the 4th time during this journey has a professional placed a pair of sheers to my mane and not chopped most of my hair off.  I twisted my hair in those flat-twists and made a vow to never miss wash day for the remainder of this journey.

#Mission2020 has begun.  “If the plan doesn’t work, change the plan to fit the goal.” My goal certainly has changed and I’m going to focus on doing my part to ensure I have the healthiest head of hair. Now when you see me in a few years with long Pippie Longstocking twists, remember I never gave up.  🙂

Have you had to re-evaluate your hair care regimen? What are your go-to methods for retaining length?

 

 

There’s nothing like a good sale when you have a few extra dollars.  You almost can’t wait to give your money away for whatever tangible item it might be.  Well, I must confess, I don’t like spending a lot of money.  I like the classic combo of a sale price coupled with an exclusive coupon.  So, one Saturday morning as I’m scrolling through emails I find this and jump right in the shower and prepare myself for the journey.  I mean seriously, how could I turn this sale away.  I love 1/2 off – not as much as 75%.  😉

The second-hand store has my heart. I’ve always had a love for old pieces.  As a child, we would visit the antique market in the Eastern Market weekly.  I didn’t get into buying clothes from the thrift store until I was an adult. It started in small boutique shops then I ventured into the larger chains. I’m hooked and I can admit it. Oakland County locations are the best and if you’re from around here you know what the OC means! So, I walked into the Value World location with no purse, comfortable shoes and nothing but time. Yup! I was prepared for the hunt through stale industrial detergent smelling items for little gems I could add to my wardrobe. (I’ll be sure to take you along for the next round in a few weeks to show you what it looks like.)

My methods are focused and success driven. I have an idea of what I need in my wardrobe and what sections may produce the unexpected steal. These are the areas I focus on when entering a large thrift store for fashion: work, trends, men’s.

 

The men’s department gave me a blue oxford shirt (I forgot to get a picture.) This is generally what I pick up from that section or a cardigan/sweater.  It’s the tomboy in me that keeps me in that section. I like oversized sweaters and men’s dress shirts for casual days and weekend attire.

My shopping didn’t end with those 7 pieces.  The journey continued as I sought out a few trending items. Kimonos, scarves, and sequins.  Only one of these were fruitful – scarves. I like to wrap my hair/head up from time to time.  Sometimes it makes an outfit grand.  I only wanted the ones with great pattern or silk.  Now, if a scarf embodied both of these characteristics, God bless us all. After searching each end cap’s selection of scarves, I walked outta there with 6.  Some restraint was displayed because at one time while in the store I had 14 in my cart. Then when I got home I realized one of these things was hiding a secret.  I’m not a label whore but I literally screamed when I saw it but it said Balenciaga.  SCOOOOOOORE!!!!

The only hang up I have with Value World is their lack of fitting rooms. I’ve been spoiled by Salvation Armies, Mother Fletcher’s (RIP), and Lost & Found. The majority of your goods are clothing items and the return policy is non-existent. So, why wouldn’t you want to have at least one small area dedicated to physically seeing if this garment works for you?  I mean, I literally had an in-store associate cover me while I got 50% naked to see if that black dress would fit nshit. Heaven help someone that doesn’t feel this motivated to make meaningful purchases in the second-hand store.  I don’t care if the thing is only $5. It’s my money and I don’t want to waste it.  Do better Value World!

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These are the tags from my haul. Okay, not all of them but 80% is damn good. LOL! Now, add them all up and divide that by .50. I walked away from the register with 20 items for $45. BINGO! The time spent was well worth it. All of these items haven’t been placed into the rotation. Some are scheduled to go to the cleaners. The scarves, shorts, and tops have been washed in Tide/Downy Scentables being dried with a Bounce dryer sheet.  That’s all I really need – ensure they are clean.

Since I began shopping at these type of stores, my anticipation about the mall is ever present. I don’t like spending full price and appreciate the individuality of secondhand finds.  It almost guarantees I’ll be the only one with a specific garment on at a particular time and I relish in my individuality.

Are you a fan of the secondhand/thrift stores?

 

 

I really don’t know how long this “natural hair journey” is going to last.  The first big chop took place April 2, 2013 and I was making good progress.  A pretty good balance was created between protective styles and heat.  However, I developed a pretty nasty habit and it has been frowned upon.  After my appointment had to be cancelled, I had to figure out another plan. The results are bittersweet.  Stay around for the deets.

Let me start by saying, the time and effort that goes into natural hair care is underrated and appreciated.  These last few weeks have proven to be more stressful than any other week in my journey.  Every morning I’m brushing, twisting, fluffing, blending and styling to look presentable.  When I get home I’m thinking of a way to style it so I won’t have to manipulate it in the morning.  If the Mista wants to have a little QT, I’m out the game.  This whole routine had become very stressful to me.  Not to mention my almost non-existent wash days.  I’m up for work then out until the evening.  The domestic chores I need to complete are done during this time.  Then with extreme pleasure I head off to the football field for the games on Saturday.  On the seventh day, she rested and tries to get things together for the coming week.  Can you find the room for the detangling, pre-pooing, shampoo, condition, deep condition and style?  Right!  I couldn’t either.  I will honestly say that this journey has become very frustrating to me.  I wanted to do something about it and check the health of my hair.  You’ve seen the pictures of my hair over the year – it’s been growing.  It was time for someone to confirm the visual professionally.

I reached out to the 1st stylist to set up an appointment on a day I was planning to treat myself to a day of beauty.  She responded with her regrets due to travel.  Then I scheduled services with another stylist that I trust.  As we get closer to the day, I receive a text requesting I select another time due to an unforeseen event in their lives.  If I reschedule, I’m not going to do it at all.  Once I have my mind set on something, it’s either yay or nay.  I cancelled my appointment and was on the hunt for someone with education and availability.  I was recommended to a young woman in the Metro Detroit area that was familiar with the healthy hair practices. With faith the size of a mustard seed, I awaited for my appointment.

The location was nicely tucked away and welcoming.  I described my practices and the things I was interested in with my hair.  She talked with me about the products she was using on my hair and educated me on some of the things I have learned.  What I didn’t have much stomach for was her up sell of my need for a stylist on a regular basis, the phone conversations held while completing my hair and the amount of time used to complete the appointment.  The highest offense I took was her disparaging tone with regard to the education some of us naturalistas have adhered to on our journey.  Yes, all of these practices may not work to the favor and glory of everybody but they have guided and taught so many of us along the way.  Yes, my hair wasn’t in it’s best shape and I hadn’t retained as much lengthy as possible but I did grow my hair to collar bone length with no help.  I held my tongue and allowed her to do what I came for.  Wait, let me not forget how she talked down on the products I was using at home.  I knew in that chair I would never come back to this shop again.  Leaving crossed my mind several times but I was committed to the plan I created for the day.  She commenced to straighten my hair and it had grown tremendously.  I could have been prude and just figured it out for myself but I knew I needed to do this.  I had some problem areas and I needed her to resolve them.  She offered me a suggestion for Manetabolism.  I’ve never taken a vitamin for my hair but it’s worth a shot.  Let me give you the final diagnosis on my hair from the good doctor.

Even though my hair had grown substantially, I have been snapping the knots, split ends and being very rough with my mane.  It was discovered that there were multiple area of my hair where some strands were long and others were shorter in length.  She told me it may be “nervous energy” and you all know I had a lot going on over the past few months.  So she may have hit that disorder on the head and I told her to cut.  I’ve never been afraid of cutting my hair.  There’s another idea brewing in my head to retain as much length as I can in the next year.  Thant’s why I’m calling this BC #2.  Here are the final results.

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Does it look like mom hair?  I like it but I miss my fluffy 3c-4a hair.  The feeling of the wind blowing through my hair and wrapping it up every night brought back some old memories. I’m going to stretch this until Thanksgiving and then I’m getting back on the wagon.  After I straighten my hair I’m always worried about it not reverting to it’s natural state.  It’s so soft!  I refuse to fall in love with this because I can’t wait to see is all curled up.  Speaking of curls… those Lee beauty supply stores are only good for 3 things to me:

I was going to say 4 and add my wig but I just found some amazing placed to purchase from online.  Which I just ordered because I will need it in the off season coming up!  I didn’t even mention her “don’t wear wigs everyday” spill.  I think that’s what keeps my hands out of my hair most.  Anyway, I went and picked up some new flexi-rods because my sister lost the other set I owned.  In addition, I got some smaller perm rods for the shorter hair in the back and can’t wait to style it.  So, if you asked me if I like the cut?  I’ll tell you, yes, only because I’m thinking of every imaginable style I can recreate.


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I’ll post some style photos as I have a little fun.  The point of it all.  I’m still on the journey, experienced a setback but I’m positive it’s in prep for my comeback. 😉 Keep smiling!

According to my post, The Pledge of 2015, everything is moving as planned there is only one that slipping away. Moreover, I have time to correct that one.  In the mean while, we must begin embracing this fall weather that is upon us.  This is not my favorite season but it ushers in the “Most Wonderful Time of the Year.”  I’m getting excited just thinking about it.  Let me not get ahead of myself.  Here are the essential items I have tracked down for MY wardrobe.

I’ve been sitting here all summer looking for one of these hats in prep for the cooler months.  In a last-ditch effort to secure one before they are all gone, I found one that meet my specifications.  There is still a need for one of the featuring the floppy brim, but we’ll handle one chapeau at a time.  This whole finishing the look thing is starting to grow on me.  Hats are always a good move for me – great for semi-bad hair days.

ASOS Matador Felt Hat

Wide leg trousers have been a love of mine for years.  I know this isn’t the ideal garment for a small frame woman.  Yeah yeah yeah – I still like ’em.  If you know where I could snag a cool pair, let me know.  This image is strictly for reference.  They need to be above the naval and wide.  I see the look in my head and can’t wait to hit these crazy Detroit streets in them.

High Waist Crepe Wide Leg Trousers

Something tells me in my heart of hearts that I’ve had a cape and really didn’t know what it was until it was gone.  Hell, I don’t even remember it.  THIS as my cousin would say is as good as GOT.  This piece screams personality, sophistication and undeniable style – don’t that sound like me.  I like the idea of the black but if I discover an ecru or camel colored one.  Lord, please still my heart every time I want to wear it.

WOOL BLAZER CAPE BLACK

The is no fall, spring, winter or summer for that matter that doesn’t require Timbs.  It’s beyond a cultural thing.  These are the new Air Force 1s.  They can turn any look on its head and change the game up.  Try a nice floral dress featuring beautiful makeup or distressed denim accompanied by the infamous white tank and these hoofers.  I don’t know about you but I like the sound of it.  I ruined my last and a new pair is an obligation.  It’s that unexpected piece in any woman’s wardrobe, that isn’t working in manufacturing or construction.

CLASSICS

The 90s was a great time!  Baggy clothes, plaid and dark lip liner.  Who could forget the golden age?  NOBODY!  I remember owning a hunter green bodysuit that displayed my lady lumps perfectly.  Well, they’re back and I’m jumping back on the saddle.  The designs are fresh and the curves of my womanhood fit perfectly in place.  Being more confident in my body and skin is going to make for a better experience in 2015 and beyond.

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Your list might be different and mine might grow some more.  That doesn’t change the fact that I need to pick these couple of garments up to add to my collection.  Whatever you do within the last few months of the year, make sure it’s Beau Miss

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Rent is a concept that many of us are aware of in lieu of ownership.  The official definition is to pay someone for the use of (something, typically property, land, or a car).  What they didn’t mention were high fashion garments for special occasions.  This is my newest best friend- respectfully after music, books, google and carryout, LOL.  The program is affordable and convenient.  Here is just a little insight I have on Rent the Runway and some fashion friendly options for our pocketbooks.

I don’t claim to know everything.  So, when my friend Tony was getting married, I realized I needed a great dress for this event.  Let me add that my ex would be there in all of his – hell I don’t know what to call the momma’s boy.  My co-workers had mentioned Rent the Runway before in conversation.  One for her own personal use and the other for the girls going to prom from her non-profit.  After scrolling the selection of several stores and factoring in the cost of the ticket with hotel, renting was a feasible option for me.  I checked it out and was amazed by the selection and prices. There is a little something for everybody.  Dresses from $30 and up.  This was a match made in the stars – more like my favorites on the task bar.

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I’ve used their service a total of three (3) times in the past 2 years.  It’s very easy to use.  Give them the date of your event, place your order and ship it back.  Other women who have wore the garments post their reviews of the item and give details about their size and shape.  I have found this to help a great deal in picking out the right size for myself.  The dresses I have ordered fit perfect and the compliments were never ending at the events.  As you can see I’ve worn dresses from some of the top designers in the business and a new collection I had never heard of in my life.

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Pay attention to the cost of renting the dress for one event to the price to hang it in your closet and pray for the day you can wear it again.  Yeah – that’s what I said!  They also send you a second dress in another size to ensure you have a comfortable fit.  In my initial test run for New Year’s Eve, you can see the size 0 dress hanging on the closet door.  They ask that you order items to be shipped one full day before just in case you need to make a change.  The dresses are packed to prevent any additional need for irons, steamers and whatever else we use to knock out wrinkles.  And the real brilliance of the program is the prepaid shipping materials for returning your purchase. Drama free – Gotta Love it!!

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I’d advise all of my fashionable followers and family to give this program a try.  They also have an app available on Android and iOS.  This may not be for some of you rich folks but for all of us on a TIGHT budget, it’s s godsend. Here I am in all the garments.  There’s also an opportunity to buy some dresses during the clearance event.  One of these dresses I truly wouldn’t mind owning. Can you guess which one? 🙂

I left you all hanging on the “Between an Equinox and a Solstice” post.  Let me see where I left off.  There may not be much to fill you in on because I’ve been posting on the regular again, lol. Keep in mind a lot of time passed and I really remember what I need to post through my camera roll.  This should be exciting.


Yep, if you picked her you’re correct.  They became the Ruckers on June 19th in the state of Michigan.  The ceremony was beautiful and she was a stunning bride.  Once again, the original SoMe musketeers were together.  After battling a cocktail hour and dinner line, I headed back to my home for a relaxing evening.  Congrats are in order to the bride again for keeping the drama to a minimum.

It takes a lot for me to ask someone for help. You can blame my foolish pride for that trait.  Over the pass several years, I’ve needed a friend on more than one occasion and you wouldn’t believe they all came through for me.  However, I thank God for sending Melanie into my life.  She’s been a genuine friend.  From my days of underemployment when she would whisk me off to the show or dinner until now.  Words can not express my appreciation for her friendship.  So when she said she was celebrating her burfday, you know I had to be there.  She looked beautiful and happy.


Now, I may not be turning up like I use to, hell I’m 35 and have done the most.  Add this to the facts, I really just adore quiet nights at home, now.  In some cases, I find it imperative that I get out to spin around on the dance floor every once in a while.  Here I am with my original crew and Eva (I forget the young lady’s name that was with us).  If you see a pattern in my clothing you’ll be on point for my next post. 🙂



Sleeping Beauty Hair Garments expanded during the 2nd quarter.  In addition to our staple bonnets, edge tamers and scarves, we added something a little more weave friendly – Bundle bags.  Yes, our Beauties can rest their wefts in our satin & silk bags in between installs.  Let’s put this in perspective, a lady can spend upwards of $200 on virgin hair.  Once you take it out to allow your natural hair to breathe, are you suppose to throw it in a zip-lock bag to preserve the freshness? No!! These bags are constructed to give the same effects of our worn hair garments.  The response has been phenomenal. Just a little something to round out our product line.  If you’re interested in a quote for hair garments or bundle bags, please email sleepingbeautyhairgarments@gmail.com.



You could say I had a good time during my break.  You could also say I didn’t do too much out of the ordinary.  What you won’t be able to say is I wasn’t smiling! 🙂 #AllTheWay like Frank Sinatra!

There’s nothing more gratifying than giving back to a worthy cause and I believe music culture including fine arts is a great program to invest in – especially in Detroit.  Bravo Bravo has come an gone and in true Beau Miss style, I’m going to tell you a little more about the evening’s events.  This year MaShawn joined me again and Eva made her debut!  You’ll notice a few familiar faces from the pics but the night was totally original.

This is an event you don’t want to miss.  It’s like the MET Gala on a Detroit scale.  High fashion, charity, celebrities and plenty of networking mixed with a whole lotta liquor.  In the name of fashion I decided to use my new go to find for all the special events in my life.  Rent the Runway or RTR allows ladies to lease high fashion garments at a small fraction on the retail cost of owning them.  This totally cut down my shopping time for this event.  I selected a NHA KAHNH dress and decided to wear the shoes I wore last year with the same bag.  Who goin check me?  Lol


This was the 1st choice of my quasi-stylist.  It fit like a glove and complimented my slim hourglass frame perfectly.  The next move was in the hair department.  This dress was so beautiful I wanted my hair to compliment instead of compete.  My newest weapon again blending with the rest of the attendees – Cold Wave Rods.  My go to hair styler.  So I got my hair pressed by my OG gangsta on these locks, Fred Converse of Dolce International Salon.  This man only did my hair for 11 years and knows my hair.  A quick ride home and setting the rollers in my hair had me riding around town like THIS.


Hunty, I had bought lashes and everything for this event and didn’t put them on Lawd Geezus.  When Eva showed up it was time or me to pull all my “S” together.  Makeup on soft and simple, nails on a clean clear coat and fragrance is The One by Dolce & Gabanna.  The completed look – elegant. A quick ride up the block to get MaShawn and let the party begin!


The food was fab as always and of course I found another little drank that was totally delicious. You already know   NOTHING is replacing my day one Belvedere. However, I’ve never let that ruin my night.  The drink I really liked was at the station next to the Rum Chata and I don’t even know the name.  😦

In true style and expectation, I ran into a few familiar faces.


  
What can I say, it’s BRAVO BRAVO.  It’s always a good time capped with a great grab bag at the end of the night.


Until next… Party less and impact your community through charity.  I mean they really know how to throw a party.

Great night as always!