The autumn winds have been a welcomed event and I’m going to bring you up to speed.  I’ve adjusted, recognized and featured on The Edge.  When I’m away from you there’s traditionally a great deal going on.  It’s only been a little over a month yet I don’t know where to start.  Bare with me if I start rambling but something tells me you won’t leave until I get to the end of the story.  Let’s get right into this leg of the journey.

At the end of September, I got a call on my desk phone.  It was the recruiter about the job I interviewed for a few weeks prior.  While holding back my excitement and a few gratuitous tears, I was offered the position and I accepted.  It seemed like things were starting to look a lot better in this very moment.  I couldn’t tell anyone because the process wasn’t complete.  It was hard trying to hold it in but I had to tell my day 1 friends that started at this company with me.  On October 5th, I was transferred to my new workstation and gained a new perspective of the company I was hired into.  Over the pass few weeks, I’ve been trying to get my area in order and adjust to my new responsibilities.  The 1st week was the hardest because I kinda missed tweeting at customers but as time went on I recognized it was time for me to do something different.

Meanwhile, during this time the Mista requested some time alone and I really didn’t know how to process this.  Why would he need time away from me?  What could I have done wrong?  So many questions were running through my head but I had to remember something that I determined earlier this year.  As long as we follow our own rules, who can can judge us if we fail.  The questions ceased and I went on enjoying this time in my life and getting reacquainted with my “me time.”  I like the time I have with myself.  Some time ago, I resolved I would probably never get married and started becoming comfortable with that.  Of course I’ve considered it since being with him but I can’t let go of the idea that it may not happen.  After a solid month, we reconnected on our own terms.

I haven’t mentioned the FOOTBALL!  That’s right if you follow me on Instagram (@bmisunderstood) you already know the kid plays for the Martin Luther King Jr. Senior High School varsity team. We’re still enjoying an #undefeated season after the controversy.  Some of you got the story from my Periscope and the news. Check it out.

http://www.clickondetroit.com/news/students-parents-pack-meeting-to-overturn-detroit-king-forfeit/35935402

Division 1 Champions

The decision was overturned with suspensions of players involved and we went on to get the W against Cass Tech at Ford Field.  Last week we defeated U of D Jesuit and are scheduled to play Wyandotte this weekend.  This has been an exciting season and I’d like to think it’s destiny.  If you all remember, the kid use to wear the number 19 when he played for the West Side Steelers in PAL.  He holds number 80.  We both observed the relation on the day he got his number. 19 – 80, the year I was born.  I’ve been to every game and with this photo in my back pocket.

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I’ll keep you posted on our results.  LET’S GO CRUSADERS!!!

In the background, the kid went to the homecoming in a throwback look from the 90s.  This picture does him no justice.  He wore a Coogi sweater, Levi’s and Clark’s wallabees. I didn’t even have to argue with him about it this year.  However, I did call my friend, Marv Neal, to give light on the significance of the Clark’s (thanks 😉 for the assist).  So, I think he’s growing up a bit.  True to my thrifty heart, I purchased the sweater on eBay.  Let’s give acknowledgement to the high top fade or Bart Simpson as the NEW kids call it.  I think he looked rather nice.

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A doctor’s visit for my annual exam deemed unnecessary until they told me I have a Vitamin D deficiency.  How the hell do you get that?  Here’s what I found may have been my cause:

Researchers have also noted that vitamin D deficiency is prevalent in adults of all ages who always wear sun protection (which blocks vitamin D production) or limit their outdoor activities.1 People with increased skin pigmentation (such as those whose ancestors are from Africa, the Middle East, or India) are also at risk, as are the elderly.

Let me also include that my normal dairy intake is not what it use to be considering I’m not as local to the products I trust from Meijer.  So they gave me a prescription and I’ve started to make that journey to purchase the groceries I love which can assist me in turning this thing around.  Don’t worry about me, I’ll be just fine.  Other than that, I’m healthy as can be and headed back to the gym.  Yes, we’ve been through this gym break-ation (Comes from my new addiction to Wendy Williams, lol) before.  However, I never internalized the importance of the gym in my life.  Working out helps my attitude about myself and it’s helps me release tension.  My body feels like I was in one helluva fight after the first couple days but I’m determined to stick with it.

This will require a whole post of its own but I wanted to be let you all know.  This natural thing is almost at the end of my rope.  My mindset – I’m fidgeting with this hair everyday, back and forth with the idea of a sew-in and do not want to damage it.  It’s getting very exhausting and I need a change.  Yes, I’m coming up to year 3 of the 4 year promise. At this time though, I’m over it.  I’ve made an appointment for next Friday with Maya Mitchell and will follow-up on what happened.

I believe those are all the highlights.  If I think of anything else you should know, I’ll be sure to inform you. At any rate, I hope you all are well and smiling! 🙂

I’ve been sharing the different events in my life with your for almost 4 years.  Over the pats couple weeks, I’ve been thinking of other ways to communicate with you.  This would be a way for you to attach the voice with the words I write.  The YouTube channel (Bmisunderstood) has been very interesting to me.  However, looking through hundreds of channels, I’ve decided to organize my content for the best delivery to the viewers.  This would include my how-tos, beloved favorites, book recommendations and thrift shop finds.  There may also be a few get ready with me and “Conversations with Momma.”  I’m excited and you can expect at least two videos a month.

In the meantime, you can catch me ranting, raving and discussing my latest posts and other items on my mind via Periscope.  You can follow me @Stoical127 to watch my live broadcasts.  As much as you all have connected with me, I would like to see all of you that have been following me over the years.  We’ll give these things a shot at connecting us further.

Be sure to let me know what you think!   🙂

Couponing has been a part of me for couple of years.  If there are coupons, which equal additional savings, I want in on them.  In the year 2015, there is a need to spend less money and promote good spending habits for the kid.  This is the only reason I buy the newspaper – the coupons.  There are a million ways to save and I think I’m up to 997,000 – lol!!!

As I mentioned, I’m old school with the coupon clipping.  Every Sunday there is a stack of paper shavings and savings in my dining room.  Some of the stuff I’ve never used, want to try and use on a regular basis.  These are usually arranged by expiration date.  On occasion, I’ve been able to bundle the savings based on in store incentives for using coupons.  So sad, Meijer isn’t double couponing anymore.  That was where I use to get the best bang for my buck.  Needless to say, my book lives with me and I will not make a purchase unless I have looked through to see if there is any cost assistance available.  I’m not cheap, I just like the idea of getting it cheaper than the next customer.  There have been times when I have passed the savings on to others in the store because I didn’t need it.

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Invitational coupons are another type of coupon I love more than clippings.  These offers come straight to ME – not my neighbor or son but me.  The best example of these would be Victoria’s Secrets monthly offers to save more on something I truly love and more than likely going to purchase.  It always helps when there is a free gift I can’t live without (ex. blanket, beach towel or tote).  This was a great assistant to me after, you remember what happened.  This increased my love and loyalty to the brand.  Every company needs loyal repeat customers.

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App coupons are the freshmen on the team.  I’m sure we all have used them from time to time.  JoAnn’s, Michael’s and Macy’s are favorites via this line of offering.  The only part that kicks me, is when I haven’t charged my phone (which is always) and it’s on the verge of dying   If it dies before I meet the cashier, I’m out of luck like Chuck.  There is one location that trumps all in making me prepare my phone.  Can you guess who that retailer is?  One place – Target!  That Cartwheel has been a god send to my purse.  If you don’t have it, get it.  I’ve saved more than $30 in one visit using clipped, sale items and this app.  After clipping on Sundays, I usually open my Cartwheel and accept every offer I THINK I want.  Talk about a bundle on the savings.  I even scroll it while I’m in the store to check for anything I may have missed.  This one little application re-energized my couponing adventures.

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Lastly, I may have been the last person to get a CVS card.  I just never wanted it because I couldn’t see the purpose of it when they scan something for you to get the savings anyway.  Moreover, I mastered how to get that free money.  ExtraCare Buck are a must.  This was a whole new world to me and I am loving it.  So far this year, I’ve accumulated $29.  You wouldn’t understand the joy I felt getting a few of my groceries while only spending $8 from my wallet.  Yes those baskets are small but mine was full.  I walked out with 6 bags of food and a brow pencil from NYX.IMG_8463

Saving money is the only way I’m going to fund some of my dreams.  There are times that I have to refuse the savings because I don’t need things or prioritize my cash.  My couponing isn’t extreme but it’s everything to me.

Do you use coupons?  Which are your favorite?

Who would have known I would still be here with you on this faithful day 3 years ago? Nobody!  That’s what makes this entry so special.  I didn’t believe this platform could keep my interest as long as it has.  The things I’ve shared here have helped me deal with life and moving forward.

Happy Burfday Beautifully Misunderstood

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There will be some exciting things happening this year as I look forward to keeping you informed on my journey to happiness!!

What would my countdown be without a song?!?!

This post won’t be that long because I’m still shocked by this.  A year ago this entry came in at number 3.  It returned to take a higher placement in my life this year.  The joy I feel in knowing that he is becoming the person I tell everything to, gives me the honest truth and doesn’t pass judgement makes the day that much easier.  I’m still taking it one day at a time and that seems to be getting us farther than expected.

I’m happy with him and the way I have transformed in this relationship.

Shaka SenghorBeautifully Misunderstood stopped Shaka Senghor of Drop A Gem Publishing for the “Happiness Quest” inquiry. Mr. Senghor is a writer, mentor, and motivational speaker whose inspiring story of redemption has captured the hearts and minds of young adults across the nation. During a 19 year prison stay, Senghor discovered his love for writing.  In total six books have been written, including a NEW memoir about his life, Writing My Wrongs.  He is the “King Pen” behind the detective series Crack: Volume 1 and  2, and a book of his writings entitled Live in Peace: A Youth Guide to Turning Hurt into Hope, a companion piece to his mentoring program.  Shaka has worked with youth at the Detroit Job Corps and many area high schools; has lectured at the University of Wisconsin–Platteville, the University of Michigan, Fordham University, Wayne State University, Marygrove College, and Pace University; and is an invited guest on local radio and television programs.  Most recently, he has been working with the MIT Media Lab on a project to strengthen Detroit through a creative initiative.  Now,  I met him out here in cyberspace and had the opportunity to get to know him personally and build a genuine friendship.  He calls me his “Business Partner.”  I won’t deny that.  After taking an active role in promoting his literary works through several groups and reading the books – my respect for him, what he’s doing, where he had been and more importantly where he wants to go, grew.  Beautifully Misunderstood asked him the same questions we ask everyone and he had not problem in answering.Writing My Wrongs

Who inspired/encouraged your movements/change?  My greatest inspiration for changing my life is my father James White.  He is the epitome of a father and a great man.  He encouraged me to always maximize my potential and to never give up in life.  He was by my side during my lowest points and encouraged me along the way.

What risk (if any) did you take to follow your happiness?  The risk I took to follow my happiness was trying a new route and understanding that the road would be harder to travel, because I had to pave it as I went along. The easiest thing would have been to go back to my old ways, but instead I risk it all by embracing a new way and starting a new path.

When did you discover what would make you happy?  I think I am still discovering what makes me happy on a very personal level.  It is part of learning myself in different situations.  Being in prison most of the things I learned about myself was theoretical and in my head, but now that I am free I am learning more about what makes me happy and what makes me the man I am today. I know succeeding and accomplishing my goals are a part of it, but waking up to the smile of my son Sekou is a part of it in a different way.  I can honestly say I am growing into my happiness. (Sidebar: One of the cutest and sweetest little guys I’ve encountered lately.)

How long did it take you to embrace the move toward happiness?  It took a very long time for me to embrace the move toward happiness.  Prison isn’t an environment where happiness is celebrated or embraced.  I had to do a lot of soul-searching and cleansing internally and externally.  I had to get rid of all my negative and toxic thoughts and then get rid of the negative and toxic people in my life. It was a process because some things are habitual including the company we keep. However, I love that I am still growing into my happiness and embracing the positive side of life and all it has to offer.

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Where would you be had you NOT followed your happiness?  If I hadn’t embraced my happiness and the things I now believe in, I am sure I would be just another statistic caught up in the same destructive cycle. The thing is I can’t imagine being trapped in that sick twisted world anymore.  I am happy my spirit of determination keeps me progressing toward the positive light.  It’s a great feeling to be in control of my destiny instead of having my destiny controlled by someone else.

Sum up your journey in one sentence….  Obstacles can be overcome and broken spirits can be mended, it’s all a matter of having the will and determination to do it.

Beautifully Misunderstood shined the spotlight on Shaka for his steadfast and genuine transition from being a part of the problem to making strides toward finding solutions and becoming an impactful factor in the community.  There’s always so much focus on the negativity in the city that we miss real turn around stories such as this.  Detroiters and people across the globe have embraced his literature and programs that he has concentrated his energy into.  He has by far become one of the people I truly enjoy conversing with even if all we do is laugh.  I admire him for taking a chance and creating a life for himself, a legacy for his family and most importantly dispelling the idea that he would return to the life he emerged from.  That summary of his journey will probably stay with me for the rest of my life.. Might even make it up there to be one of my all-time favorite quotes.  To learn more about Mr. Senghor go to his website http://www.shakasenghor.com/.  Here you can make contact for speaking engagements, locate events and most importantly purchase books and I must say (unbiased in any way) that “Writing My Wrongs” was a real page turner.

As always keep dreaming, moving in the path of your HAPPINESS and :).

Julius "DJ Jewels" Myers

I believe it was within Shakespeare’s The Merchant of Venice “The man that hath no music in himself, nor is not moved with concord of sweet sounds…. Let no such man be trusted.” (Something along those lines a little longer but that’s the moral of the story, lol) Julius Myers aka DJ Jewels Baby, Detroit native and one of the entertainment industry’s premier DJs.   Orchestrating parties since 1998, his style and personality are sure to give the attendees of any event memories that they won’t soon forget.  At the same time, he’s been incorporating his love of music and desire to help children through Math Made Easy, a collection of songs that teach children multiplication.  Let me add that he is an accomplished Trainer within the LA Fitness corporation.  Beautifully Misunderstood stopped the always busy DJ Jewels for the “Happiness Quest” inquiry.                                                                                                              

Who inspired/encouraged your movements/change?  I’m inspired by the desire to be better and the desire to be happy, knowing there is greatness on many levels that await me.  It’s strictly internal.  I may see successful people, I smile to myself and say I am/ will be there and in greater positions that what I see.  I believe in me.

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What risk (if any) did you take to follow your happiness?   It’s a lonely road, most people cannot over stand the drive and discipline it takes (to) achieve greatness or even happiness.  Every social part of my life suffers, I hang out with my close friend while I’m deejaying an event, or at the gym where I do personal training.  (My) Love life women don’t like to hear “no, I have work to do”, so many nos and that’s that.  I don’t see my family much due to me chasing my dreams and desires. 

How long did it take you to embrace the move toward happiness? ( It’s apparent that he’s known his whole life that he wanted to impact the world..)

Where would you be had you NOT followed your happiness?   There was no other option but to pursue this journey towards happiness.

Sum up your journey in one sentence…. The happiness from within me touches the turntables which pushes you to experience happiness that only can be felt in that divine moment, which is…PRICELESS.

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Beautifully Misunderstood shined the spotlight on Jewels (the common moniker he goes by) for his “never giving up” attitude and constant progression toward the success he has envisioned for himself.  As the sound of Detroit continues to affect the world, even as so many attempt to concede that it has no relevance, I’m sure he’ll have a hand in keeping our musical souls alive.  I’ll let you in on a little history.  I met him while he was deejaying a party of a friend.  Needless to say, I have no idea where she is right now, but he and I have grown as friends.  Whenever, I am asked about recommendations for a music vendor for events, he’s the person I tell them to call.  The DJ (that’s what I call him) has displayed more perseverance and patience in attaining his goals.  Always making people accountable for the goals they have set for themselves and expressed to him, he’ll assist in keeping you on path.  As he’s told me on so many occasions “Quit Playing,” always inquiring about progression of my plans.  I trust him, as mentioned in the being of this post, he’ll succeed in all his endeavors.  If you’re looking to include music in your next event go to thatsmyfavoritedj.com and submit a booking request.  Don’ forget to check out his Math Made Easy website and support an educational effort.As always keep dreaming, moving in the path of your HAPPINESS and SMILE.