As we age, we have to grow for true maturity. Staying in the same head space and sometimes even the same place can hinder us.  Evolution is uncomfortable. You’ve become familiar with one set of norms and growth challenges you to be someone different. 

I know it’s scary but with every day your life should become enriched with ideas and opportunities of growth. This in no way means you’ll have a new personality on a daily basis. If for some reason this happens, please seek professional assistance. At 30+, I don’t even think of things the same as I did at 30. I can truly say I’m growing, opening up to new experiences and looking for a every opportunity to smile. ūüôā

The purpose of my life may not be clearly visible but I’m acknowledging I want to get there. I believe everyone on this earth wants to live in their purpose – but how will you know if you’re stuck in the same spot. In order to discover everything or even a portion of what it feels like to live in your purpose you have to break away from some norms. Embrace the uncomfortableness of the process and BE GREAT. 

Have you noticed your evolution? Was it a welcomed change? 

I left you all with a helluva cliffhanger. You knew The Kid turned 18, is a senior in high school and scheduled for graduation. ¬†It’s about time I bring you up to speed. ¬†The picture from He’s 18, is from his senior pinning ceremony. Our next event was prom and after some teenage drama, we arrived in style for the big dance.

First of all, he did the whole prom-posal thing and the young lady accepted only to decline his invitation weeks before the event. ¬†Never to be outsmarted, he decided to go by himself. ¬†Then one day he calls me at work and says ‘he has a date’ – WHAT!? Within minutes, I see a face I remember and the dress she’s chosen to wear. ¬†We were officially on a mission to find him the perfect complimentary suit. ¬†He’s a classy kind of guy with his mother’s sense of style. ūüėČ

We spent days looking for the perfect floral jacket, bowtie, and pants. ¬†Then it all happened at once. Dinner jacket – found and the other parts just came to us, all at reasonable¬†prices and Auntie submitted her order for it all. ¬†We’re not rich people and refused to go broke for one event. Then there was the rental car situation and Grandma came to the rescue in that area. ¬†Then the barber, Arf, gave him a cutting edge haircut to go with the look for the evening. ¬†His date asked me to bring some chicken to the send-off. (You know that’s what the young kids have nowadays. Everyone comes over to one location to see the couple off to Prom. ¬†There’s food,¬†balloons, red carpets, backdrops, and lots of pictures.) After I picked up the chicken, I was on my way to see my kid which was ahead of me by 45 mins.27_3

I showed up and to my surprise, my sister was in town to see her #1 guy go to the prom. My family gathered at the young lady’s home. She looked adorable and the jacket was a perfect match. ¬†As they rolled away in the Escalade, I told them to have a nice time and her parents stated her curfew. What they didn’t know at the time was their daughter probably had the safest date in SE Michigan. But I had to see things through their eyes, he was the driver and responsible for her safe return afterward. ¬†Here’s a picture of the two of them prior to leaving for the Roostertail.Prom¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† They both returned home at a respectable hour both reporting they had a good time. ¬†For a good portion of his life, I thought of this day and what it would feel like for me. I can truthfully say I felt proud. He was a door holding, well mannered young guy that a daughter’s parents didn’t have to worry about when they were out of sight.

The Prom was over, the jacket was the most asked about attendee and The Kid was on his way to Cedar Point (some traditions never change – they were doing the same thing when I graduated 19 years ago.)

It was a night to remember and I moment I will never forget. ¬†ūüôā

After I decided to stop looking for a home, another item on my 2017 vision board. Getting a new car.  This has been on my to-do list for over a year.  I weighed my options and decided to treat myself.  My research started with the Technical Assistance Team here at the job.  Take a look at what I decided to lease.


It was between this Cadillac CTS and a Buick LaCrosse. I wasn’t given any bad information about either model. ¬†The test drive made me change my mind. ¬†I just enjoyed all the little bells and whistles that came standard on the CTS. ¬†I called Prestige Cadillac in Warren as¬†recommended by a co-worker and I worked with Clarice Russell. ¬†She was very accommodating and patient with me as I had several missed appointment due to senior year conflicts and documentation errors. ¬†I walked in and signed a small portion of my life away for¬†a little peace of mind all under 90 minutes.

At the beginning of the year, I created my vision board and thought I added both vehicles.  So you could probably imagine the irony and surprise I experienced when I went to check it off and only found the CTS.  I guess I spoke it into existence. (sidebar: never forget to speak your truest dreams into existence and words have power.)

Now, as many of you¬†know¬†– I¬†name all¬†my vehicles. All the names are male. (I wonder if there is any psychological meaning behind that, hmmm). ¬†There was¬†Sterling¬†the¬†Lincoln¬†LS, Cole¬†the¬†Dodge¬†Magnum and here¬†for the¬†next 34 months is Lance. ¬†In the¬†beginning, I¬†know God created the¬†heaven¬†and earth but I was moreso¬†talking¬†about¬†the start¬†of this¬†relationship. I called¬†this¬†car Stanley and this was encouraged by the Jazmine Sullivan tune. ¬†Then I remembered that’s my good friend AJ’s husband’s name and I went right back to the drawing board. All of you know, I talk about my car’s like we’re in a real relationship – ‘Cole and I went to the mall, I got Cole some shoes, and Sterling don’t have time for the foolishness.’ So, I definitely¬†didn’t want any awkward moments in the near future and I¬†changed it to LANCE.

Needless to say, I’m in love. The infotainment system is a much-needed addition. ¬†This is solely because I really don’t like to hear all that commentary/conversation. Radio equals music for ME. ¬†I appreciate the forward crash and lane sensors, the rear camera, and the speed monitor. ¬†The only thing that bugs the crap outta me (yes! I said outta) – is the red light above the steering¬†wheel that flashes when someone jumps out in front of me – I SEE THEM. ¬†Everything else is perfection and I’m not only saying this because this company puts food on my table.

I heart this car.





I know you all are tired of me doing this – the disappearing act. Even if you’re not going to say it, I’ll tell you. I’d be tired of it myself but I’m back and I appreciate you all for stopping in and checking while I was out of the office. ūüôā There is so much to catch you up on. This is going to go by very rapidly but you can expect a post from me at least 3x a week. ¬†Here are a few highlights from the posts to come:

  • House Hunting
  • PTSA Elections
  • Prom
  • Lance
  • New Assignment
  • This Hair of Mine and so much more.

I need you to have the trust of a mustard seed in me.  The postings will being Friday and continue until this entire story is available for your reading pleasure.  Catch you in a few!

I’ve always known purchasing a home was in my future. ¬†However, the idea always included a husband. Not one to be deterred due to one piece not being present, I began shopping for a mortgage the beginning of the year. ¬†On my birthday, I was pre-approved for one through Quicken. Feeling under the weather and having some concerns with my in-house realtor, I switched back to a contact from my past, Jenniefer¬†P. ¬†Things have been looking up but this shit certainly isn’t what they showcase on all those HGTV shows. ¬†I’m muhfuckin¬†tied (insert little girl’s voice).

Here are all the properties I have seen. I tell you it was something with every house. Needs too much work, too small or wrong neighborhood. ¬†I narrowed my search down to a specific area and zoned in on all properties available. ¬†Detroit was the only city I was considering. Trust me I saw some good deals in the burbs (this included Highland Park) but my heart wouldn’t let me budge. Some days I would see upwards of 5 properties. There were properties listed but not available, sold already and the occasional the pictures looked better than reality. Thank God for warm days as they allowed me to see how the neighbors reacted to nice weather (my people will totally understand this rationale.)After actively looking for about a month, I found 2 and prepared to place an offer on.

After placing offers and not winning coupled with some frustrating miscommunication from the mortgage banker, I decided to revisit my plan. I had viewed upwards of 15 houses. At this time, I felt I saw all the houses for sale in my designated areas. Being fully self-aware, I knew I needed a break because I began to compromise on my must haves. This is one of those life changing experiences and I’m almost over it. ¬†Of course, I had a deadline for the purchase when I started but it’s becoming more flexible in the coming weeks. There are other areas of my life that need my undivided attention. In the meantime, I’m going to go to this and possibly speak with some other financial institutions about mortgage services.

I’m not filing this as a failure just adjusting my goal to fit the situation. I’ll keep you updated regarding the results of my Detroit search/purchase.

The day has arrived! My one and only kid turns 18 – today. ¬†You all met him when he was just a pup. ¬†Now, he’s maturing into a man. It hit me like a sack of rocks this morning. This guy can buy cigarettes. ¬†Maybe I’ll hold on until he can buy me drank! ¬†ūüôā

Happy Burfday, Rez!! 

My Little Chocolate Joy

You’ve made me who I am today!

First of all, I know this post is a quarter late and probably not what you want to hear from me but I’m remiss to keep you all up to date. We’ll get into the details of the last 3 months in the coming days and don’t get tired of me.  ūüôā Let’s carry on from where I left off. I began this post and never came back to post it.

I’ve explained to you before that I’m not into resolutions. Planning is my sort of thing. The last time I did this was 2015 and that turned out pretty good. So, here I am prepared to document my plan for the new year. Please know these are in no particular order.

Prepare for all ID renewal

I need to renew all legal identification this year. This includes my driver’s license and passport. This is always a dreaded time for me. I wait until the last minute, don’t think my look out and end up settling with the outcome over the next couple years.  In 2017, I vowed to get everything prepared as if it’s New Year’s Eve. The picture below should serve as a reference. I’ll be sure to post the results through the year. Now, if I could get my hair to do this again I would be happier.  

Pack A Lunch

Last year, I struggled with packing my lunch. Only because it’s so convenient to go down into the food court at work and pick up something.  According to my banking analysis for 2016, I spent more than 2,500 on takeout.  WHO THE FUCK HAS MONEY FOR THIS? Certainly, not me.  I have to do better as I prepare for the next stages of my life.  So far, I’ve only spent a few dollars on takeout but my planning for a small afternoon meal is getting better. It totally includes packing my lunch and hauling that lunch sack into the office at least 4 out of 5days a week.


Save More Money

My financial goals were realized in 2016. I saw the purpose of a savings account – and it certainly was not to purchase shoes and airline tickets on a whim. Thanks to my Facebook group, I’m doing all types of savings challenges.  Envelope, $5 bill and spare change. All funds from these initiatives will be deposited into my savings account quarterly to keep money from being in my home. In addition, I’ve planned to continue to figure out how I can cut costs.  Here’s an example of a savings challenge.


Reduce Cholesterol 

With my recent health issues/concerns, I have become a prisoner to a Lipitor prescription. I want out of this medicinal jail. I know what I have to do and this is my way of getting it done. By the end of the year, I want them to tell me I don;t need the meds anymore. True, my numbers are not bad but I have to prove I can responsibly manage my cholesterol to reduce plaque production.


Purchase Martha & Marley Spoon/ Blue Apron Box

After my birthday, the next day I’m in great anticipation about is not even Valentine’s Day this year.  It’s Feb. 13th. That’s when Martha & Snoop’s Potluck Dinner Party comes back to VH1. I’ve always loved Martha. My mother is a really good cook and would watch her show every day after Oprah. I learned how to fold sheets, dye eggs and set up for a kickass dinner party. In my efforts to cook more, I stumbled across this subscription box from Martha. I’m on board and will keep you informed on how it all works out.


Be moved by May

I have alot going on this year including several reasons to celebrate. This calls for a more visitor friendly environment.  My planning is based on being moved into another home by May.  We’ll see how this shapes up and I’ll keep you posted on the search options.  Will it be outside of Detroit? Not a chance! I know my heart would break. For every bad that everyone can point out, I know the good.  This will ALWAYS be home to me.


Date Nights

I generally don’t do the same cliche things others do in relationships.  My independent spirit has always lead to me creating better memories and becoming more creative. This one has been playing tennis in my mind for some time.  These will be instituted this year especially in the second half of the year. In addition, I have so many clothes in my closet with tags only because I think it would be great for when we go out. Let’s ramp this initiative up with some urgency – I’m not getting any smaller. (wink wink) LOL


Stop Frequenting Cheap Nail Salons

Within the last month of the year, I visited a really good foot doctor and he gave me some solid advice and unexcepted news. I’ll give you the good first. I didn’t have toenail fungus, just two badly bruised great toenails. The advice “you get what you pay for, maybe pay a little more for your pedicures to make sure they’re doing quality work.” Damn strip mall nail techs. You probably thought I was going to go there.  Not even but I thought this would give you a good laugh.


Don’t Lose it at the Graduation 

I don’t know what I’m going to need to do but this one seems almost out of my control. Please direct me to some YouTube videos or something. I’ve already broken down at the championship banquet, senior parent meeting and on the sofa when he’s away. It’s something about that moment when you realizeY’all know I don’t want to embarrass the kid but something tells me it’s on the horizon.  Give me some tips or something!


Park on Level 4 All 2017

I’m in between driving and ride sharing to work daily. I don’t mind driving but the walk from the parking structure is a chore some days. So, I’ve vowed to never park above level 4. at the end of ’16, they made us park in the company paid area or be locked in the structure. I like familiarity and driving around and around looking for parking is not a high point of my day. In the coming days, I’m considering purchasing a vehicle and this may change (you should see how some of these people park.) In the meantime, level 4 or bust.


Everybody has their own goals and vision for 2017. These are the core items on my to-do list.  The numbers of the year have me energized, it’s me burfday scrambled. This seems like a pretty decent plan I can follow. What are your intentions for the next 12-months (or 9-months)?